Okayy soo i just completed my 12th in 2026 and now i have taken a gap year where im learning german and will go there for my further studies but like im in the process yet im still learning and dont know when will i go and its kinda scary im so scared that what if it didn't work out what if i fail what if i didn't get the life i always dreamt of like ik im still young im just 19 but idk i want to be successful till 25 idk why but the idea of not getting there or having a life i wanted just scares me iy haunts me whenever i think about it i cry i shiver its like i cant breathe idk its just so hard its like i cant fail if i did i will lose everything i have.....im just scared

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Goshhhhhh same twin. I am 19 years old girl and i finished my 12th this yr to. I too had plans and thought of not taking a gap yr, took bunch of exams and some i passed but didnt go cus i had better opportunities and at the end i am left with none and has to take a gap yr unwiilingly. Butt one thing i learnt is Life doesnt stop, there is no catastrophe in failure waiting to swallow you whole there will be more opportunities sometimes even better. I am not saying to not give your 100 percent or wait for the next best thing to happen but just dont be afraid of losing. I lost which i never imagined cried for 3 days still in mourning but i am applying for other opportunities. I know it feels like I will waste an year if i dont get in and i gotta be successful till 25 is the same thought i had and still do. But trust me 25 is a milestone of a long journey and you are young (dont be irresponsible though or naive)  I know you will figure it out. Panic has never increased our chances of winning it always have made us make mistakes out of fear and not thinking through. This was all about mindset
Now how to deal with this 
1. Meditation- as cliche as it sounds it realllyyyyyy helps try messy u dont have to be perfect just try it

2. Journal yor fears and reflect on them why am i feeling this way and what actions to take to minimise the anxiety or panic

3. Look for plan Bs- what i can gather is as much as u are afraid of failing u are more afraid of the uncertainty of what to do after it putting all your work in one test is hard work and focus but putting all your faith and dreams of future in one path puts u in a postion of fear and disppointment so check the options that u can pursue if this doesnt work out

4. Go see a therapist or counsellor not because something is wrong with you but to just express yourself and they may be able to help you better than me

lastly I will say work hard towards your goal but also prioritse your well being over everything. U are the most precious thing everything else is because of u <3