“okay so like basically i am still friends with my ex he might not be a good boyfie but he was definitely a good person and a good friend but like he cant let me go properly it was ME who initiated the break up but like its hard that i cant move on and the thought of him being with someone else just tears my soul apart and i just cant even imagine that scenario i mean i just wanted to go no contact so we could move on properly but he was just wanna be friends with me in order not to loose me forever but the problem is how can you be friends with someone you once loved? i mean i will surely go away from him if he ever gets a gf again because staying friends without ex while you are committed is very inappropriate but the thing is he say we just friends but tell me ily and flirt me just like in a rls a person would act and i cant even resist that ik i love him sm and he also loves me a lot but we are just not compatible ik he isn't good for me at all and if we ever get back w each other again there is no way we will end up together in the end i am just so troubled”
✦
Someone answered with kindness...
Gurlll sameee... I am literally going through same situation. I broke up, I can't move on and everything u said. But uk I am trying to cut him off.. because if it was so good, why would I have initiated the breakup? Also this will just keep us stuck... cutting off will allow u as well as him to move ahead.. ofc it hurts and u will miss him a lot but that doesn't mean ur decision was wrong. If its very difficult u can try u know slowly cutting off like taking 3 days without talking then increase the gap ... And u both can assure each other u would pick up calls if its an emergency or something. See I dont have frnds, 2-3 frnds I have and with him my connection was better.. Idk if I will be successful but I have decided to never be with him again no matter how good he is .. because just like I havent moved on from him, I also remember his mistakes...
That was just my suggestion.
All the best.. do what makes ur life easier not hard..