“Okay so I have this relationship problem..I was in relationship with my best friend from 10th class..I moved to a different city in 11th for studies..we knew each other from 8th and our relationship was good until it became long distance..he never cheated but he hurt me many times and took me for granted and never valued my emotions after 1 year of long distance i broke up..but we were still in touch not much but yeah
We tried giving it another chance after 2 months but he didn't change..I then left him again..I met this another guy in 12 in my school and he was so sweet so nice to me emotionally available just the way I wanted..within one month we got attached I got attached and dependent too..bht on the other hand I was in touch with my ex too..not in a good way..just fights and arguments and he somehow knew about this new guy..then this new guy left me for his ex after month after saying that he loved me n want me n so on..i got so hurt..and it affected me a lot because I was genuinely seeing a future with him..but after all those good Times he realised that he still loves his ex..and left me..saying vo mere sth glt nhi Krna chahta..in the other hand my ex bf came to know about all this nd he was hurt s lot because of the other guy but he still wanted to give one last chance to the relationship..I am not sure what I want..I still thinks about that new guy once a day atleast..idk why..I don't even know how to handle things with my ex..he keeps bringing up the new guy thing because he was hurt..my ex is a very good guy..he was just caught up in his life but he truly loved me and cared for me..but idk what to do now..whether to live with him or end things and idk what to do with the thoughts of the new guy..my ex is scared and still tells me that he is afraid that i might do something like this again”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Look I'm also a girl and if i put myself in your situation then it's really complicated and painful but look yk we girls are way more emotional and look for affection than boys but at the same time we both are not weak it's just natural bcz we get to face monthly sickness, mood swings and way more if we dive deeper... So dekhein in point of view apne try kiya ke rls survive krjaye first ex ke sth but usne forgranted ley liya tbh i have brothers so i asked them the question ke why do the guys take girls forgranted after rls he said bcz pehle hum efforts krte everything aur jab mill jati tou tb bhi pyaat krte but bs normal hojata boht... Aur jab ke ab apne us larke ko already chance dey diya itni dfa then ig you shouldn't give him another chance bcz a leopard can't change his spots means ke insan ki nature wohi rhyti aur ap already boht hurt ho chuki ho so instead of wasting your time for that guy try to move on and invest your time in yourself i swear it'll pay you off aur apko 100 times acha larka mille ga who knows your worth bcz sachi bat btaun tou apke Ex ko lgta hai ig agr mein overall kafi logo ka mere pass bhi apke wala scene rhy Chuka tou bat yehi thi ke woh pehle wala larka humesha larki ko forgranted smjh kr usko devalue krta aur usko lgta ke ab tou yeh roz ka hai like yehi uske liye aik option hai larki ke liye so don't satisfy his ego sis aur agr woh apke liye care ya pyaar krta bhi hai tou apne benefit ke liye kiu ke ap bhi tou apna time uske uper invest krti wrna koi itna acha nhi hota ke kisi benefit ke alawa kry kuch bhi kry kisi ke liye bhi... I hope you understand and best of luck