“My uncle wants to keep contact with me all of a sudden. He has a daughter and his brother that is my father also has a daughter that is me. So he wants to connect both of us. But I don't think my cousin would want to have a deeper emotional relationship with me because I too feel it is not possible from my side because there is a lack of mistrust from mine. I feel as if uncle wants to take me abroad where they live together as a family. I dont like this. I already told this to him but he says that he won't force me yet he tries to instigate the same thing. He tries to interfere in my life and wants to know everything while I am unbothered about them and they themselves never share about their lives. nosy about my life telling that he has good intentions but it doesn't seem so. I want to maintain boundaries by not sounding rude. But he irritates me and I.m scared of sounding harsh than is necessary. This trait of mine does it seem like I am trying to please them idk or do I seem to scared of the repercussions or guilty. idk. could somebody help how to solve this problem”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Ngl be rude if you have to , because some people can't digest opinions that are different from them. If your dad is supportive, tell him what you're feeling. If not, stand for yourself. Trust me, being a people pleaser will only hurt you. They're going to stress you out. It's absolutely no worth it.