“met this guy thru some mutual friends and once we started talking he was really sweet. the most loving and sweetest person ive ever probably met. we were long distance from the start, and everything about him was so perfect. he treated me so well and i truly believed he loved me. then one night he told me he was moving back to his hometown, meaning the LDR would be more far. i was a little hesitant but fine with it cs i believed that we would manage it because we love each other right? we start dating and its all roses and hearts until he stops the efforts. he stops putting in efforts and slowly i notice a change. we breakup and im sobbing while for him its so unaffecting. however we get back, this happens 2 more times and the final breakup happened a month ago. he competely stopped the bare minimum and stopped the efforts. when i tried talking to him, it felt so unsafe like i never knew when he'd get mad. i know its not all on him, i know my words and how i said it was a bit off too but still. we're still friends or were i guesss because he ghosted me for an entire day yesterday and still replied to comments on his reel. when he finally texted this morning, i left him on read. i say im done but it just hurts to see how a boy who once said he'd marry me switched up like this. he said he'd fight with his family and marry me no matter what. promised to show me the world and move with me to europe. it just hurts so badly to see how he switched up. what do i do? do i wait for it and see where it goes or destroy all hope and move on? will he ever change or am i just waiting for the potential?”

Another soul answered...

I know it hurts so much but if he has done it again and again then he would repeat it again. If it was just a single time then maybe there was something that u missed from his pov but repeating it again means he is lyk that. I myself has went through things lyk this. Eve though I lived my girl so muchh there was a time where I hurt her not knowingly and I was going through some problems , so what I was thinking was that she doesnt even understand what I am going through, eventhough I am going through this much she is still hurting me , but from her pov it was lyk I was the one ghosting her. So thinking from both of our side we realized we both were hurt by each other and almost let go of each other for a month. But after we both ended up opening ourselves we realized our mistake. Like that you can either try to open up to each other if u havent done that, but if u have already done that then I am sorry to say this but he isnt the one for you. You will have to move on. But dont be hard on yourself, okay? If you need any help reach out to your friends, family members or you can reach out to a stranger here. I bet someone kind will see it and help you.

Another soul answered...

hey,im in ldr too tbh sometimes distance does magnify the circumstances and can make ya feel lonely apparently only sometimes but if its a pattern you should not tolerate it,you deserve the same kindness you give,you deserve someone who reciproctes your energy ik tellling is easier than doing it or accepting it,sometimes people change or are not consistent in their efforts your not responsible for it,dont take the blame or have second thoughts like why me maybe its cuz of me anol,nah,if someone wants they will,and what he did cant be justified,and jus think can u tolerate this for a lifetime?is tht how u want to live?would you love to return back to your home everyday when u guys live together?distance does magnify the problems,but it cant be the reason for ya to jus let the other person down,focus on your life,keep yourself busy,ikik it will take time,but gurl dont blame yourself,its on him,whatever reasons he might have it wasnt right to do this for ya,stay strong,everything will be alright even the darkest night rises,so dont get more emotionally invested in him,take your time,you know whats right for ya,jus accept it,prioritize yourself,