Someone once asked...

“Maybe some of you might judge mee for confessing this,but honestly I'm feeling like why I'm always the one who puts constant efforts with the person I'm attached in a relationship, when I was 16 I started dating guys in an dating app not met anyone in real life but chatted with them,then I had my very first double sided relationship when I was 17 and we broke up due to some inconveniences and now I was in an situationship and i honestly don't know what to do, coz I like him and before him in the previous relationships I had I was one the who made first move so I believe the man who's in my life should make the first move so that we can have a non-chaotic and healthy relationship,so idk 🥺😬”

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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker

Well..I'm 16 and literally have to right to judge you tell you what's wrong or right, but I think I'm in this website to help people, because that's my dream(to be a good therapist) so I think, only the man 'should' not be the first one, it's like sometimes he will that you won't like whatever he does, or maybe it will make you uncomfortable, so it's extremely okay to make the first move but, Everytime...is not right, you should take out a little bit of conversation....maybe that could help...? Thank you for listening to my advice

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Another soul answered...

In a relationship the efforts should be always mutual. So if you're sure that he will take care of you and love you then of course you can make the first move. Just make sure that he's a good guy and you shouldn't be the one that puts all the efforts. Relationships are never one sided. Please take care of yourself also and always know your self worth and know when to walk away. Rooting for ya :)

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Another soul answered...Thanked by the asker

woman. Lets just keep things as both respecting each other. Because i feel in today's time and the way we work, the issue really has become people prioritizing who speaks first and labeling it as "their job to make the first move" has spoiled the purity of the entire thing. I feel both should do it.

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