“Like another problem that I'm dealing with is I may not care about parental validation or appreciation. I try to not care about it. I tend to just disregard and continue harboring my relationship with my parents. But the fear that I have is what if they dislike me for doing well? Because at times I feel that way, they dislike me for doing something special. And when I inquire them about it, they're like, no, we don't think of you that way. But still it pinches me in my heart like, oh maybe they don't like me. Because at times when I'm sharing and I'm happy and sharing my good deeds, they are like they change their tone and they don't show the same warmth as before. So it makes me afraid. And it also makes me like think about why bother moving forward? Why do anything special if that is how it is? Why do it when they're supposedly jealous of me, which they don't think of it that way, but still it feels that way for me. So I think like, why do it? I may not crave parental validation or approval. But if they are straight up jealous of me and I have to live with them, what's the point anyways? And I feel like maybe it was not worth doing it. So there is that blockage in me. I want to push forward, but what happens afterwards? What if they get jealous of me and they don't show the same warmth? Would I continue being jolly with them or do I need to suppress myself or not say the things that I need to say so it makes me hesitant to move forward or strive for growth in my life”
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Someone answered with kindness...
u might be alive because of ur parents but how u live , what decisions u make , what results they might procure is entirely upto u and the environment u r in , i understand how seeing the people birthed u not having any warmth to ur achievements may feel , that is very unfortunate , but u can't decide how they feel or react to anything , u can only control how u feel about any thing so just maybe wire urself into thinking what they think of u is meaningless , parental warmth is not earned like other relationships , they are the reason u were born , they should be responsible to make u feel good , if they are failing to do so , its not ur fault in anyway, i hope this helps.