I’ve grown very close to a female coworker. We spend long hours texting and calling late at night, and she shares all her daily worries with me. I've developed romantic feelings for her, but I really can't tell if she sees me as just a friend or something more.
During our chats and phone calls, she is super active and gives me her complete focus. But whenever I propose meeting up in person, she always finds a reason to cancel. Some of her explanations sound genuine, but others feel like she is just dodging the plan.
This whole situation leaves me feeling lost and confused. I'm just not sure how to handle things or what to do next.

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I’ve grown very close to a female coworker. We spend long hours texting and calling late at night, and she shares all her daily worries with me. I've developed romantic feelings for her, but I really can't tell if she sees me as just a friend or something more.
​During our chats and phone calls, she is super active and gives me her complete focus. But whenever I propose meeting up in person, she always finds a reason to cancel. Some of her explanations sound genuine, but others feel like she is just dodging the plan.
​This whole situation leaves me feeling lost and confused. I'm just not sure how to handle things or what to do next.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

You could try giving her coffee or something she would like as a drink or a snack at work and try to strike up a convo, but do it in a break if you guys have one, depends where and how you work, really!