I've grown close to a colleague over the past half-year. We message each other late into the night, and she opens up to me about her everyday struggles. I've developed romantic feelings for her, but I am completely unsure of where I stand in her life.
Things can be very unpredictable. One day we are chatting for hours, and the next she goes silent and leaves me hanging for days. I don't believe she is intentionally ignoring me; instead, she might just be overwhelmed by her own personal challenges.
Even so, this inconsistency leaves me terrified of losing her. Yet, whenever she reappears and acts like everything is fine, I get too nervous to start the honest conversation we need to have.
How should I go about handling this?

Question

​I've grown close to a colleague over the past half-year. We message each other late into the night, and she opens up to me about her everyday struggles. I've developed romantic feelings for her, but I am completely unsure of where I stand in her life.
​Things can be very unpredictable. One day we are chatting for hours, and the next she goes silent and leaves me hanging for days. I don't believe she is intentionally ignoring me; instead, she might just be overwhelmed by her own personal challenges.
​Even so, this inconsistency leaves me terrified of losing her. Yet, whenever she reappears and acts like everything is fine, I get too nervous to start the honest conversation we need to have.
​How should I go about handling this?

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I know right we are humans we have heart we have to experience all these things and it's so good I feel so good when I experience these things like a romantic attraction for someone it just makes me feel more like a human but the thing is we should not make ourselves feel sad because of another human which is just like us the thing is js njoy the process of this feeling of being with her listening to her problems sharing your problems because not everyone is meant to be your love of your life or whatever because love is something which you have to feel that it is same from other side you would feel it by yourself but if you feel like shhi or confused around her and it's makes you feel weak then you should know maybe there would be things in life being with that person you wouldn't be the happiest so let's just not force US to be treated the way we want from another person she might feel really comfortable around you so she is sharing her problems and she wants the same from you a really nice Bond I wouldn't stop you from confronting it, its life you should say what is there to the people because it's very short you are going to die any ways so sharing your feelings but expecting an answer which is most not likely to come and then making yourself suffer over that is something not you should do well it's so pretty to see someone having such feelings such lovely feelings for someone I love humanssd