“I've been talking to this girl, and we went on a date recently. Honestly, I felt comfortable being myself around her, and I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her. I like her, and I want to see where things could go between us. But lately, I've been feeling a little confused because I feel like something changed after our date. She still replies and sometimes seems happy and engaged, but I feel like her curiosity, willingness to call, and interest in making plans have reduced. I've noticed that I'm usually the one initiating conversations, calls and making efforts, and I don't want to end up being the only person trying to keep this connection alive. At the same time, I'm scared that if I stop initiating, she'll assume I've lost interest. I constantly find myself checking my phone, wondering whether she'll text or show some initiative herself. I've even tried reaching out after deleting a message, sent her a couple of follow-ups, and noticed that she viewed my story but didn't respond. I don't want to play games, deliberately ignore her or make her feel unwanted. I just want to understand whether the interest is mutual. I know I might be overthinking some things, but I also don't want to ignore patterns that genuinely bother me. I want to give this connection a fair chance because I was comfortable with her, I enjoyed her company, and there's still curiosity and willingness from my side. I just want the same energy, effort and genuine interest from her side too. I don't expect constant attention or instant replies; I simply want to feel that she wants to know me and spend time with me as much as I want to know her.”
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i think you must ALWAYS try to focus on the small things rather than looking at the bigger picture and i think that the girl is also feeling a bit scared of commitment or sum thats why she might be cosplaying the whole idgaf thingy. There was this guy who i used to vibe with super well and then he started talking to me every single night (like every night right after 11pm)it made me feel like i might be mistaking the whole thing cuz tbh i thought that he was playing w me cuz hes bored at night and SO i started to ignore hime at noght and used to respond his text the first thing in the morning only to be ignored till 11pm so i just assumed it wasnt for me and gave up on him so i think you might have something yo might learn maybe?