I've been good friends with a coworker. We text late at night, and she shares all her little troubles with me. I have started having feelings for her, but I don't know if she sees me the same way.
Things change so fast between us. One day we talk for hours, and the next day she goes silent and doesn't answer my texts for days. This makes me very anxious and scared of losing her. But whenever she comes back like nothing happened, I get too scared to bring it up and talk about it.
What should I do now?

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I've been good friends with a coworker. We text late at night, and she shares all her little troubles with me. I have started having feelings for her, but I don't know if she sees me the same way.
​Things change so fast between us. One day we talk for hours, and the next day she goes silent and doesn't answer my texts for days. This makes me very anxious and scared of losing her. But whenever she comes back like nothing happened, I get too scared to bring it up and talk about it.
​What should I do now?

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I think you should have an actual conversation about this with her. So that you get things cleared up. That way you'll get clarity and see her side clearly too. Dont let others take the benefit of yourselves, this might sound rude but don't be a doormat. Have a healthy conversation and sort this out. So that she also feels sorted.