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“I've been going through a tough time in my relationship. My boyfriend is going through something maybe but he doesn't tell me. He says that he can't explain and would like to keep me away from his stuff and keeps ignoring me. Due to which , I feel stressed constantly. Doesn't I deserve transparency in a relationship? After all that, he doesn't even take accountability when I say that it hurts me.. I'm so lost.. idk what to do !!!!”

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Someone answered with kindness...

well its good that you're not being anxious, and try to talk to him like this "i know you care for me and maybe that's why you dont want to share what you're going through but we help each other, you'll feel light after sharing, i am here for you and i love you and so i cant see you like this, tell me what it is when you feel like sharing, and take care, im here,", and as you said i feel like you guys are together for so long and even if not, leaving should not be an option, things can work out just take care you guys dont get any misunderstanding, i hope its all gets ok, take care dear,

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Another soul answered...

This first part might not be something you want to hear but hear me out. Everyone deserves to keep their secrets. There are so many reasons why he might not want to share what is going on. Maybe he want to keep you from worrying (yes I know, most of the time this doesn't actually work) or maybe he feels like it's not actually that big of a deal. My point is sometimes it's okay to have things we don't know about our partners. The best thing you can do is let him know that you are there for him if he needs your support. Now that being said secrets can be harmful and if you do feel like this secret would harm you then you should do whatever you think is best for yourself. I wish you luck and hope that you can find peace in this situation.

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