I'm young, single all my life. I just started working in a new city, and I've been feeling kind of lonely all the time. I want to start dating, but I do not know where. I'm afraid of approaching girls, always feel tensed about how I come across to them. I do not want to use dating apps, it's a whole another circus.
Idk this thought always just... seeing couples around me and then thinking I'm gonna die forever alone.
Sometimes I even feel guilty for being so desperate because the internet has told us that being desperate is a crime.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Firstly, I would suggest that you stop chasing people or forcing connections. If you don't have a genuine, organic connection with someone, you're simply wasting your time, energy, and emotions. You cannot control people, their feelings, or how they perceive you. The only person you have control over is yourself. Focus on building yourself up financially, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Prioritize your health, fitness, career, and, most importantly, your peace of mind.

There's nothing wrong with wanting love or companionship, but don't let loneliness push you into seeking validation from the wrong people. Being single is far better than being in a relationship where you don't feel genuinely valued. Meet people, socialize, and be open to connections, but don't make finding a partner the center of your life. The right people may come into your life when you least expect them, and until then, build a life that makes you happy even when you're alone.