I'm stuck between continuing my studies and looking after my child. I could use some support but I'm afraid of the possible guilt trip over some debt of gratitude. I'm actually a 3rd year college now, only a year to take to be able to finish my degree. My father promised me that they (my mother and him) will look after my child so that I can finish my studies but unfortunately, my father passed away a month ago. Then suddenly my mother doesn't want to look after my child anymore 'coz it was only my father's want all along. My baby daddy's willing to look after our child but he also needs to work and he'll be only able to take care of our child when he's at home. I cannot just let him do all of it because he will sacrifice his rest. He only get 3-4 hrs of sleep everyday because he always chooses to help me with the baby and the chores. He works at night, btw. Idk what to do. I really want to continue and finish my studies as it's also my promise to my father.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I feel for you and your loss of your dad. Doing it alone for a month after losing the main person in your life and holding a baby while trying to finish school is the heartbreak of it all. Please don't quit you are soooo close.

Talk to your university advisor ASAP tell them your dad just died and you lost your childcare see if you can switch to online modules or go part time so you and your husband are not running on empty. One more semester to get your degree is nothing if it means your husband is not operating on 3 hours of sleep. As for the debt of gratitude seeing the help now as a temporary bridge to your baby's future is the way to go. The help is only for a year, and once you get that degree, you'll be able to stand on your own two feet forever your husband loves you guys sooo much lean on each other, reschedule your classes to coincide with his sleeping schedule, and go get your degree for your dad and baby. Love and strength coming your way!