I'm struggling with my family situation and genuinely don't know what to do.

My mother passed away, and my father remarried. His second wife treats us badly, speaks negatively about us, and there's constant conflict at home. My father is extremely strict, constantly shouts, controls my clothing and freedom, and I don't feel comfortable being myself.

My relationship with my siblings is also difficult. My elder sister became friends with my former best friend of five years. They talk badly about me, sometimes in front of me, and my ex-best friend shares embarrassing pictures of me in group chats. I don't even have my own room or privacy.

I desperately want to move out, but I have no savings or stable income. I'm also worried about my younger siblings, especially my younger brother, who struggles with depression. I don't want to leave them behind.

How can I become independent in a situation like this? How do I work towards moving out while making sure my younger siblings are okay too? I'd really appreciate advice from anyone who has experienced something similar.

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I'm struggling with my family situation and genuinely don't know what to do.

My mother passed away, and my father remarried. His second wife treats us badly, speaks negatively about us, and there's constant conflict at home. My father is extremely strict, constantly shouts, controls my clothing and freedom, and I don't feel comfortable being myself.

My relationship with my siblings is also difficult. My elder sister became friends with my former best friend of five years. They talk badly about me, sometimes in front of me, and my ex-best friend shares embarrassing pictures of me in group chats. I don't even have my own room or privacy.

I desperately want to move out, but I have no savings or stable income. I'm also worried about my younger siblings, especially my younger brother, who struggles with depression. I don't want to leave them behind.

How can I become independent in a situation like this? How do I work towards moving out while making sure my younger siblings are okay too? I'd really appreciate advice from anyone who has experienced something similar.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Whatever u are going through its not ur fault u can take home tutions if possible or if you completed 12th then u can also do some parttime work also there are so many. See you're going through some difficult times in this survival is the only way.  Try best to ignore them. learn detachment nd boundaries. Dont waste ur energy on them.  Now u have to focus on how u can make a way towards to be financially independent ASAP. So for that matter dont take there words seriously or what they mean. It's really difficult for be around those parents . You don't have to waste ur energy on them just make way for ur career nd how to get out from that house. See first u have ri focus on ur self leave that group cut off ur best friends. What kind of freind make fun of there own friends also do that same with ur elder sister maintain a boundary nd choose detachment with them.  First u have to make a way for urself if you know some government hospitals who gave free treatments. Start his treatment soon. Dont take ur step mother father or best friend or elder sis words like it's the only truth. Let them speak whatever they speak they only define u. It's high time u should focus on urself. Learn some skill from which u can make a money out of it. Right now ur education, ur mental health nd ur brother treatments is very important. You can't make anyone understand whi dont want to understand. Things will just getting worse. Our parents don't  understand freedom in that manner nd I don't think they will ever understand it. Write down ur thought, go to temple listen bhajan seek God help help as well.  You have to do ur own things quietly nd smartly. Dont get into any kind of arguments with them not even ur elder sister. U have time make ur future beautiful where u can live life on ur own terms. I hope God help u in this difficult time nd I hope u get success  in this . U have to do Anything nd everything for ur survival in that house just keep that in mind then only u can make ur better future