im still in contact with my ex and i feel like in one way i am responsible for all my friends hating him
we were all in the same friend group and after we broke up my friends were still talking to him but later on they stopped
i vented out to my friends about him and the shit he did to me and how much i missed him and all that and as time passed by they started not liking him and his actions and they distanced themselves and now we are all one group
i didnt mean for that to happen but now that i think about it i feel like its my fault
recently we came in contact
he has a best friend name M, M reached out to me about how my ex was in a bad place and told me he cried and shit and me and my ex met up 2 weeks after that and we were talking a lot and i told him M reached out to me and i genuinely dont remember me telling my ex about how M told me he cried and all but apparently i did i have the worst memory
my ex got mad and started cursing at M and M reached out to me and asked if i told my ex about all this and i said no all i said was we talked and he asked about what but i didnt say and M was like no u told him about how i told u he cried and i was like shit i dont remember
and then my ex called me up last night to ask about this and i apologised and i said maybe we should stop being in contact so i dont cause any problems and he was like there is no difference if we talk or not cause i already lost a lot of people and now i cant stop thinking about it i overthink a lot and idk what to do
when we all go out i dont mind him being there but my girl friends do they hate him so much, i wish i never dated him so we couldve all been such good friends

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im still in contact with my ex and i feel like in one way i am responsible for all my friends hating him
we were all in the same friend group and after we broke up my friends were still talking to him but later on they stopped
i vented out to my friends about him and the shit he did to me and how much i missed him and all that and as time passed by they started not liking him and his actions and they distanced themselves and now we are all one group 
i didnt mean for that to happen but now that i think about it i feel like its my fault
recently we came in contact
he has a best friend name M, M reached out to me about how my ex was in a bad place and told me he cried and shit and me and my ex met up 2 weeks after that and we were talking a lot and i told him M reached out to me and i genuinely dont remember me telling my ex about how M told me he cried and all but apparently i did i have the worst memory
my ex got mad and started cursing at M and M reached out to me and asked if i told my ex about all this and i said no all i said was we talked and he asked about what  but i didnt say and M was like no u told him about how i told u he cried and i was like shit i dont remember
and then my ex called  me up last night to ask about this and i apologised and i said maybe we should stop being in contact so i dont cause any problems and he was like there is no difference if we talk or not cause i already lost a lot of people and now i cant stop thinking about it i overthink a lot and idk what to do 
when we all go out i dont mind him being there but my girl friends do they hate him so much, i wish i never dated him so we couldve all been such good friends

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

soo hey gurrll.. i think i have face this alr. coz i was still in contact with my ex and i wanted to focus on myself so i told " lets not talk for some months " and bro i also felt guilty. from my experience i would like to say "do not reopen doors that were closed for some reason " please dont feel guilty. most of guys are just manipulative they say shits like " i am bad..its me and everyone leave me " bro stop. its your life and you know that why did you guys broke up , yeah ? so do not always let memories take over you. now you cant fix past or predict future but present is in your hand. so be happy , know your worth. you are too pretty for him anyway darling. have a nice day.