I'm love with a girl but we have realistic barriers, long distance, different religion, language, culture, she's older she's 27 maybe marriage pressure at her home, she said she can't marry someone from different religion, but we both don't want to let go so we still love each other after every arguments, and everything we didn't even met , and I'm a broken person studying, she already have job and stable life. I don't how I can make this work out but i don't give up , she's not give up either. And i feel insecure to video call her cause my home isn't looking well ,i don't have my own room or anything, my phones camera quality, she wants to call me but idk how she wants to see me study how? I'm studying using my phone, my phone i only have she's asked me no laptop? She wants to video call whole night but I'm sleeping with my siblings, we don't talked yet language barrier, I'm feeling awkward to call her . I have to want this work out we have so many obsticles in real life. Plz give me an long answer:)

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I'm a girl myself with strict parents and relatives so I can relate to her in a way. I just wanna say that it's genuinely OKAY if you're broke or sleep with your siblings or don't have a laptop. If you guys love each other, you'll make it work out. tell her you love her, really express your feelings and difficulties. Or even write a letter because u said u guys have a language barrier and translate it. Girls wld appreciate that a lot. If she rly ;loves you, she won't care about your background or your financial status. Talk to her about the marriage thing, ask her if she's ready to disobey her parents, and if she's not, im sorry bro, then you're either gonna have to move on or if you really love her that much possibly convert but totally ok if u can't. Try video calling her more when ur alone, she doesn't CARE about ur vid quality she will only care about ur efforts and that u call. She doens't know that ur these facing difficulties so tell her, bc girls tend to overthink things a lot. Show her u care and possibly go visit her irl. If u can.  Keep her as a motivation to work hard and get urself stable enough to support her.