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Someone answered with kindness...
Structure your life in a way that leads to the outcomes you want. Make it easy to do the right thing, and hard to do the wrong thing. Instrument: put it in a conspicuous place, start playing every day something that you already know how to play - and evolve from there Exercise: 2 days a week, one with a PT, put it in your calendar. The PT is important because it creates external motivation while you bu;ld the habit. Your own day is important because it pushes you to come in on your own. 2 days rather than 3 or 5 or 7 is important because its small - if you have to go every day its not.easy enough to form the habit. Don't beat yourself up - its counter productive. Motivation is temporary. Form the habit.
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Another soul answered...
Just change. i've been going through similar things lately, and ive found that we don't need motivation, we dont even need to want the change- we just need to know that we need it. It's hard, it will be for a while. But building good habits are worth it. Being happy will always be worth it.
Another soul answered...
start with one thing at a time. if you try to improve every aspect of your life at once, youll end up, like you said, getting paralyzed. 1% growth a daw is better than 0% growth.
Another soul answered...
Believe it or not, journaling has helped me immensely. Not just any journaling, but sitting down and really digging deep to write out all my fears and their underlying causes. You can do this by constantly asking why and being honest with yourself and writing out all the answers. E.g. "I don't wanna code and I'd rather put it off." (why?) "Deep down, I'm scared" (why?) "Because I'm scared it'll all be for nothing" (why?) "Because I'm scared I won't be able to reach my goals." (why?) "Because I'm not good enough" (why?) "Because I haven't practiced coding enough" I can't stress this enough: be honest with yourself, even if it's embarrassing. If you're REALLY embarrassed, promise yourself you'll burn the resulting pieces of paper later or something. That usually helps. But as long as you don't get over your internal embarrassment and fear to look yourself in the eye and ask "why", this cycle will continue. I promise you it's worth it. Fair warning: this isn't great if you're in the whole "talent and priviledge and things out of my control is the sole reason for success" because you'll hit a roadblock like "I'm not talented enough" and things will only get worse. Yes, they do play a factor, yes, SOME things are closed off to you because of where you were born, your family, etc. (For instance, I shouldn't agonize over not becoming the next president of the United States of America or being the next Mozart) BUT when it comes to things that are IN YOUR REACH and you're self sabotaging, this really, really works. Why write? Because it gives your thoughts structure rather than a jumbled mess of feelings and you can analyze your thoughts and feelings better when they're in a structured format. Do not think through this process, write it out and force yourself to acknowledge it. Once you get to the root cause, you can start asking yourself similar questions like "How can I fix this?" or "What can I do to stop this from happening?" and slowly you have a plan of action to brush yourself off and get to where you want to be. After that, you'll find it's easy to figure out how to fix and overcome your fears and mental roadblocks. I'm no productivity guru, but this really, really helped me out. You could say it changed my life, I guess. Results may vary though.
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