I'm going through a mental breakdown! In 2021 i was 10th standard student, at that time i had boyfriend, he was sweet, caring, and i also had my bestfriend, she was the bestest thing that ever happened to me, so i wanted my bestfriend and boyfriend to be known and wanted them to talk bcz they were the most precious part of my life, and we 3 were like bestest trio! And then in mid 2023, something happened between me and my bf, and we had to breakup, he talked to me very disrespectfully especially about my parents, and I'm a kind of person who cannot tolerate disrespect for my parents, so i broke up with him, the next day of our breakup he tried to reconcile but i didn't, then i asked my bestfriend to cut him off, (btw she was my bestfriend from 3rd standard, so we were 8 years old!!) And she said ofc i will cut him off, he did you wrong and blah blah, and at that time i was studying in 12th, so i had my final exams, i got 86%, and then i wanted to join computer classes, (it's been just 2 months since I've broken up with my ex btw) so i used to travel in bus, it was convenient for me! And then one day i was going to my classes and at bus stand i saw my ex, he also saw me, and i waved at him! (Bcz we decided to stay in touch atleast!) And he came to me, offered water, and we sat for like good 5 minutes, he didn't had eye contact with me, he was replying so dry, he was not even bothered enough to keep conversation alive, i thought he must be feeling uncomfortable and then i left to attend my computer classes, and then my bestfriend called me saying that she also wants to join the exact classes, but she wants different timing, i was like okay, maybe she is not comfortable to travel in afternoon, so i didn't asked much, and the very next day i saw my bestfriend and ex boyfriend laughing in bus and talking so sweetly, just the way he used to talk to me when we were in relationship, i thought i must be overthinking whole scenario, (yeah bcz obv, you can't move from someone whom you've dated for good 3 years right?!, at that time, i still had feelings for me, my bestie knew it all!!) Then i gathered all my thoughts and finally decided to ask directly to my bestie bcz i thought she won't lie to me in any circumstances, so i just asked her "after my and "his" breakup, he proposed you or tried to flirt with you?" She straight up said "girll noo! Nothing happened like that" and i was like okay fine i trust you, i was still trying to move on from him, deep down i wanted to reconcile everything and wanted to continue our relationship again bcz 3 years are not joke man!! Then he deactivated his insta I'd, we lost contact, and i started to live with his memories, then in 2025, my ex's bestfriend and i got close, we became homies! I was clear that he is just my bestfriend, but my ex's bestfriend started liking me! He proposed me in February 14, 2026, And i just put out my thoughts and said " I'll never become your gf bcz my ex is your bestie and that's morally wrong" and he just blurted out "but your bestfriend was in relationship with your ex" and the world just stopped around me! Bcz everytime i took his name, she would brush it off and say things like "leave that shitty man girl, you deserve better, he was not worthy for you" and i was thinking all of this time when i was thinking to reconcile with him, she was loving him and didn't thought of me once? That day, i lost the loml, my homie and my bestie!! 3 person in 1 second!! I had enough gut to ask her why she lied, she replies "i never said that, i don't remember when you even asked", and i asked "why you hid all of these things from me" she said "you still liked him, and i didn't had guts to say to you"
How can someone you've known for 12 years just betray you like that? My ex and i was just 3 years thingie infront of our 12 years friendship! She just kept lying and i just kept trusting on her like an idiot!!
How tf am i supposed to move on from this? Howw? Can someone just comfort me? Bcz whyy? Why the shit like these happens to the one who has no intention to hurt anyone? Why am i the one to lose 3 people? Why are not they craving me as much as i crave them in my life? Why they dont

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I'm going through a mental breakdown! In 2021 i was 10th standard student, at that time i had boyfriend, he was sweet, caring, and i also had my bestfriend, she was the bestest thing that ever happened to me, so i wanted my bestfriend and boyfriend to be known and wanted them to talk bcz they were the most precious part of my life, and we 3 were like bestest trio! And then in mid 2023, something happened between me and my bf, and we had to breakup, he talked to me very disrespectfully especially about my parents, and I'm a kind of person who cannot tolerate disrespect for my parents, so i broke up with him, the next day of our breakup he tried to reconcile but i didn't, then i asked my bestfriend to cut him off, (btw she was my bestfriend from 3rd standard, so we were 8 years old!!) And she said ofc i will cut him off, he did you wrong and blah blah, and at that time i was studying in 12th, so i had my final exams, i got 86%, and then i wanted to join computer classes, (it's been just 2 months since I've broken up with my ex btw) so i used to travel in bus, it was convenient for me! And then one day i was going to my classes and at bus stand i saw my ex, he also saw me, and i waved at him! (Bcz we decided to stay in touch atleast!) And he came to me, offered water, and we sat for like good 5 minutes, he didn't had eye contact with me, he was replying so dry, he was not even bothered enough to keep conversation alive, i thought he must be feeling uncomfortable and then i left to attend my computer classes, and then my bestfriend called me saying that she also wants to join the exact classes, but she wants different timing, i was like okay, maybe she is not comfortable to travel in afternoon, so i didn't asked much, and the very next day i saw my bestfriend and ex boyfriend laughing in bus and talking so sweetly, just the way he used to talk to me when we were in relationship, i thought i must be overthinking whole scenario, (yeah bcz obv, you can't move from someone whom you've dated for good 3 years right?!, at that time, i still had feelings for me, my bestie knew it all!!) Then i gathered all my thoughts and finally decided to ask directly to my bestie bcz i thought she won't lie to me in any circumstances, so i just asked her "after my and "his" breakup, he proposed you or tried to flirt with you?" She straight up said "girll noo! Nothing happened like that" and i was like okay fine i trust you, i was still trying to move on from him, deep down i wanted to reconcile everything and wanted to continue our relationship again bcz 3 years are not joke man!! Then he deactivated his insta I'd, we lost contact, and i started to live with his memories, then in 2025, my ex's bestfriend and i got close, we became homies! I was clear that he is just my bestfriend, but my ex's bestfriend started liking me! He proposed me in February 14, 2026, And i just put out my thoughts and said " I'll never become your gf bcz my ex is your bestie and that's morally wrong" and he just blurted out "but your bestfriend was in relationship with your ex" and the world just stopped around me! Bcz everytime i took his name, she would brush it off and say things like "leave that shitty man girl, you deserve better, he was not worthy for you" and i was thinking all of this time when i was thinking to reconcile with him, she was loving him and didn't thought of me once? That day, i lost the loml, my homie and my bestie!! 3 person in 1 second!! I had enough gut to ask her why she lied, she replies "i never said that, i don't remember when you even asked", and i asked "why you hid all of these things from me" she said "you still liked him, and i didn't had guts to say to you" 
How can someone you've known for 12 years just betray you like that? My ex and i was just 3 years thingie infront of our 12 years friendship! She just kept lying and i just kept trusting on her like an idiot!! 
How tf am i supposed to move on from this? Howw? Can someone just comfort me? Bcz whyy? Why the shit like these happens to the one who has no intention to hurt anyone? Why am i the one to lose 3 people? Why are not they craving me as much as i crave them in my life? Why they dont

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I am so sorry u had to go through that ,you're intentions towards everyone were always right ,your ethics and everything seem soo kind ,but it's just how cruel the world can be sometimes ,again i feel very deep for u 💔,  this world doesn't deserve such a beautiful soul like u , and yes it's always the case the ppl that we want ,won't reciprocate and vice versa ,that's how it works !!!
But i got a suggestion for u ,rather than craving people ,crave to be the better version of yourself prioritise YOU first ,and u will definitely attract the one for u..
At last i deeply empath with u ,come back strong ,live the life for fullest ,and i hope u meet people that crave U,and live the best life here after..
Bye 😊😊