im an international student living in Australia, growing up I always wanted to live abroad and start over. I had so much expectations but it all went south. Australia Is such a pretty country however the people aren't very friendly and they don't really include new people in their life. I have been here for 6 months and I don't even have one friends. I feel like something is wrong with me. I comfort myself by watching reels on how Aussies don't make friends in uni cause they have friends from high school or straight up living alone vlogs. Im scared im gonna spend my whole life studying and working. that's all I do. ive never felt so lonely in my life. it was my birthday a few days back and when my friends from back home asked me what I did. I lied saying oh I was with my friends. I feel pathetic knowing I couldn't even manage to one friend. id make up stories about having friends to feel less pathetic. I just don't know. I don't feel comfortable going to any social events as I don't know anyone. I just want one , just one friend.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hey man I’m sorry u gotta go thru all that emotion. Like really is suffering once you get to know her. If going on here makes you feel any relief sharing your emotions I really think that’s a good place to start, even if doing anything else is a struggle. There are good places on the internet as weird as that is to say. The world just doesn’t cater to the individual when it comes to social life and it’s terrible to think that the average person has to change depending on who they’re with just to fit in. Maybe connecting with your friends and family from back home can help you out? I understand not wanting to tell anyone about your issue, and maybe familiarity would help you out right now? I’m sorry I can’t offer any wise words, but any start is a good start as long as you make positive progress. No one wants to spend their lives in a work-rest limbo forever; you could try balance by your life out with the little things, like any hobbies you have or things you’d like to try in your free time that will make your life seem more full. Don’t let your shame ruin how you should feel about yourself. All your emotions exist in balances. Kind of like a hydraulic press. If you don’t express your emotions or let them out in any way they build up inside you until they burst and you end up snapping. Channel your energy. I know this isn’t nearly as helpful as what you might have been expecting, and I’m sorry about that. Just don’t destroy yourself over this, please.