“Im 21f who never been in a relationship cuz a always find a way to find smth wrong with the ppl who likes me. I always think i can do better and somehow get scared when someone shows interest in knowing me cuz they are always the wrong person. Do u think smth is wrong with me? Do u think when the right person comes i will push them away as a do to the others? ( idk if i always find reasons to turn them down or are my reasons actually valid)”
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Someone answered with kindness...
it depends largely upon reasons you turn people down. no body is born perfect. if you reasons for turning them down are superficial like not enough height or looks. you should re evaluate your criteria. i am not saying to say yes to a person if you are not attracted to them but turning them down for a small reason they cannot control is not good. don’t lose your standards they are necessary. yes make sure you are attracted to them but also see how they behave. how they treat you. how they treat other people. you are still young so its good you are reflecting on this
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Another soul answered...
might be due to your friends/experiences you read/saw on social media?
you are constantly looking out for negatives/ red flags only in others, instead it shoule be opposite (im not saying to just ignore them )..but this self sabotaging ,nd under confident beahvior of yours need to stopped asap
i know we should'nt be ignoring our gut feeling you might be completely right also but still
ig social media has also made us believe that -'just leave a person if he has this ,this and this. bro no one is perfect you just have to choose which which things are non negotiable for you and which you can ignore..
but still you are 21 only you will come across many good men in your life
just asking is your moon sign or ascendant/lagana -virgo?
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Another soul answered...
Thank u soo much guys for replying. I will give u examples of my reasons to turn them down.
1. A guy used to follow sooo many porn stars on ig before he told me he likes me then he removed most of them cuz he knows i will be looking. I just camt stop thinking how his fyp looked like and i think he just objectifies women. ( i can tell he has alot of wierd kinks or sm shit)
2. He is super super nice but i always feel like he is less intelligent than me ( i dont say he is stupid) but it just make me feel like i should always take care of him and i dont like that. I wish my man to be more mature and knows more than me not the opposite. I dont wanna be the one in control in the relationship. And someone like that u dont know if he has a future or not ( again he is a very close friend of mine and i like him so much) but i dont see myself with someone like that