“I'm 20F and there's this guy from my university (19M) whom I initially noticed at a café near our campus like it was him who started it so I eventually posted an anonymous confession about him on our confession page in our university. He liked it, and through mutual friends, we got in touch.
He seemed interested initially. He initiated conversations, wanted to meet, asked about my past and whether I'd ever been in a relationship. We met twice, and both times were nice. He even suggested an early morning walk to watch the sunrise, shared his number with me, and talked about meeting again.
For context, I'm quite shy and have never approached anyone romantically before, so these were genuinely firsts for me. I started getting excited about him.
Then he suddenly stopped replying, despite being active on Instagram and viewing my stories. I eventually asked him directly what was going on.
He said he wasn't looking for a relationship, even in the long run, but was open to keeping things casual and getting to know each other. I said I was okay with taking things slowly and seeing where they went. He agreed, saying "yaya suree."
I tried continuing the conversation by asking what he was doing, but he hasn't replied in almost two days.
I'm not upset that he doesn't want a relationship. I just don't understand why someone would initiate meetings, make plans and say they want to keep getting to know you, only to suddenly make no effort.
I don't expect constant texting or commitment, but I do expect basic communication and genuine interest, even if things are casual.
Am I overthinking this or what it is 😭”
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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker
hi and first IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT
you just call him or somehow make him talk to you and ask him what he really wants and you be honest too
conversation helps, really.