I'm 18 year old girl and I'm in the relationship of 4 and half years, same age guy from my school, I was not interested first but I said yes just to try and first 2 years he did everything for me ( I was really depressed my father harassed my family emotionally, financially and sometimes physically and I have to grow older even before I understand this things my mother is too much depended on me and no relatives and friends) he help me out to come out of it temporarily I felt loved for first time, he patiently waited for me until I got comfortable, he promise me he will take care even though I did not belive him but made sure I belive every single thing because he was willing to do everything but after 2 years he suddenly started changing cause he was preparing for competitive exam that's why I thought things are not going good but i constantly have family problems so i was suffering alot i was also going to therapy but I can't tell about relation obv due to my age I was literally having suicidal thoughts daily I was telling him and he didn't even bother to ask me again about it but he shows he cares he will do only after I said to him like he will ask me only if I'm not acting good but if I m good he will not even ask how I am, after 2 years he slowly distance, stopped taking efforts even stopped taking bare minimum efforts, taken me granted not taking me and my words seriously and constantly I argue with him but he said he will change everytime but he didn't even after his exams are over he promise me to go on dates with me he didn't even plan single one
until I said so and my father abandoned me and my family I gone through a lot but he takes efforts temporarily to me stay , give me hopes that he might change but after few days he back to that same and he is doing because he have to not because he want to, I told him multiple times I want to breakup cause I'm suffering alot it was affecting me physically but the only one holding back, now something happened it triggered me alot so I told him I want to breakup so he suggest to took break of couple of months he said it's kinda like a breakup and we work on self and live fullest but now he has shifted to other city new college life and he have 4-5 new girls in his followers even though he promise me to not take to make any female friends, he says good things if you read our chats you might thinks it's me problem but he just kept saying good things he actually don't change genuinely out of love, this relationship made me completely lost myself I just cry every night for last 1-2 years and finding more serious problems to tell him so he can finally care about me and give me love, he verbally just says he cares, he loves but 0 actions, he was my evey thing he was only person I love and he loved me what should I do???? I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO?? I feel so vulnerable

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I'm 18 year old girl and I'm in the relationship of 4 and half years, same age guy from my school, I was not interested first but I said yes just to try and first 2 years he did everything for me ( I was really depressed my father harassed my family emotionally, financially and sometimes physically and I have to grow older even before I understand this things my mother is too much depended on me and no relatives and friends) he help me out to come out of it temporarily I felt loved for first time, he patiently waited for me until I got comfortable, he promise me he will take care even though I did not belive him but made sure I belive every single thing because he was willing to do everything but after 2 years he suddenly started changing cause he was preparing for competitive exam that's why I thought things are not going good but i constantly have family problems so i was suffering alot i was also going to therapy but I can't tell about relation obv due to my age I was literally having suicidal thoughts daily I was telling him and he didn't even bother to ask me again about it but he shows he cares he will do only after I said to him like he will ask me only if I'm not acting good but if I m good he will not even ask how I am, after 2 years he slowly distance, stopped taking efforts even stopped taking bare minimum efforts, taken me granted not taking me and my words seriously and constantly I argue with him but he said he will change everytime but he didn't even after his exams are over he promise me to go on dates with me he didn't even plan single one 
until I said so and my father abandoned me and my family I gone through a lot but he takes efforts temporarily to me stay , give me hopes that he might change but after few days he back to that same and he is doing because he have to not because he want to, I told him multiple times I want to breakup cause I'm suffering alot it was affecting me physically but the only one holding back, now something happened it triggered me alot so I told him I want to breakup so he suggest to took break of couple of months he said it's kinda like a breakup and we work on self and live fullest but now he has shifted to other city new college life and he have 4-5 new girls in his followers even though he promise me to not take to make any female friends, he says good things if you read our chats you might thinks it's me problem but he just kept saying good things he actually don't  change genuinely out of love, this relationship made me completely lost myself I just cry every night for last 1-2 years and finding more serious problems to tell him so he can finally care about me and give me love, he verbally just says he cares, he loves but 0 actions, he was my evey thing he was only person I love and he loved me what should I do???? I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO?? I feel so vulnerable

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Idk.. I'm the wrong person to answer this ...

All I can say is a work , "Closure"