Someone once asked...

“idk how to process this pls help me out! so i have a good set of friends, luckily in every phase of my life from childhood high-school and now in my uni as well, i somehow get one good friend though i dont have like a very big friend group i have got real ones im happy for that. but the thing is i grew up in a toxic household and so i always seeked my friends for any help or whatever and them on the other hand has a loving family and they also have partners with whom they rely on unlike me (which is im happy for) but bc of that i never really felt the love from tge other side its prolly bc im someone who values platonic relationship as much as romantic relationship.. and so i stopped seeking for them as well cuz they enjoy their time with their family n bfs rather than me.. so i didn't want to be a burden.. i can go through that but they are also morally and politically very different from me.. i mean what am i supposed to do am i finding flaws in everything or what?”

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Someone answered with kindness...

You prolly have started seeing the negatives over the positives . At times u will feel afco that ur a burden on them but believe me u rnt , that's what friends are for . Please don't distance from them if ur the happiest version of urself from them . As someone who values platonic relationships as much as romantic relationships it can feel like the other person doesn't and that's kinda okay cuz not everyone thinks like us . One more u could find a partner too maybe that would sort ur issues?

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Another soul answered...

It is completely okay to feel that way, when all your friends have partners but you don't. It feels like being a backup friend or an outcast. I have been through it as well. And no, you're not finding flaws in everything! You value both romantic and platonic relationships equally, which is completely normal. But you also realize that your friends have their own priorities so you decide to step back. I know it hurts. Sometimes even the best friendships have to part ways when responsibilities come in. If they also have different moral and political views from you, they might not be your true or real friends (dont take it personally this is just my opinion). But hey dear stranger! Just remember one thing- all stories have an ending- if it's not happy, it's not the end yet! You still have a story to finish, and maybe you will find your real friends soon!

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