“I was with a guy for 2 years and he was abusive in a way he used to scream and even threw things at me but I loved him I don’t know if I did or I was just lonely and one day he decided to throw a stanley cup and I scream and he stopped and didn’t throw that but it was my final straw . I left him and he called me after some days thinking we could patch up Bec I always used to forgive him every time but this time it was enough we broke up like at aug 10,2026. And then on sep 11 I guess I message a guy that was my friend once upon a time but we Didn’t talk for like 2.5years and I started talking to him. He is calm, respectful, and feminist . And somehow we talked about everything. I told him about my past and we started talking every day on calls and we eventually became more than just friends and we officially started dating on Oct 17. And one day my ex called me again from unknown number and I told him i got a bf and all and he just said whatever and then hang up. I told my bf about this too and he trusts me and I have blocked my ex on everything but again he decided to mail me and trust me there were all the nasty words you can think about and he called me slut indirectly and cheater(i never had any male interaction during that relationship) and just told me bunch of things and I go to therapy and is diagnosed with depression anxiety and ocd and he used that against me saying i just go to therapy for validation . And even during relationship he told me o I was weak and couldn’t do anything without him and idk do you think I am a slut for moving on ? And my present bf is everything I have ever prayed for .. he motivates me to be better and I am actually being better and he is calm and is not abusive and respects me and other women too and loves me so was i wrong to give him a chance ???”
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Someone answered with kindness...
nooo you were never wrong, see the best thing to do in your life is to be happy
i mean do whatever tht makes you feel happy
be with someone who respects you who makes you feel happy, not who says you can't do anything
i mean gurl thts the best thing you did, You left him
yk being happy is all tht matters in tis World
nd once you know this rule , everything will be easy
cause it's only 1 time opportunity in tis life time
so just take it
ik this sound too philosophical in tis kinda world but trust me it's the truth
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Another soul answered...
You were never wrong. Leaving abuse bf was brave and moving on with someone who treats you with respect is healthy not cheating or being a slut. Your ex’s words say everything about him, not you. You deserve the calm, kind love you have now. I’m really glad you’re safe and healing ❤️🩹
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Another soul answered...
Noo, obviously not coz i personally come from almost same story as yours...once i also loved a girl and she cheated on me for 13 times, i gave her chances but she never took it serious but one day i stepped back and finally after 2yrs i met a girl like she is unreal...i mean she loved me so much that even my inner child felt like reborn and i was shocked to see her pure love coz i thought love is jst a joke but now im with her and we love each other a lot...so what you're doing is RIGHT coz if you're in relationship then you expect peace and comfort other than romance and its for any couple in this world so be happy with your new bf and it would be good if you take actions on him if he still tries to get back you coz indirectly it may affect your healthy relationship ...hope you have a good day and all the best for your journey!!!! (and yeahh wish for me too that my relationship also works till the end, you may pray too if you believe in god....haha jk)