“I was in love with a man for a few weeks. He was out of my league, prettier than me, more successful than me, richer than me, came from a nice healthy family. Meanwhile me i was middle class, average job, nothing much just an average girl. Now that i look at his type I'm not like them. He left me and gave me a reason which I'm not sure about but i think he was just being nice because when he came back he gave me a different reason of leaving which didn't match. We lasted a couple weeks and he left. I was very immature back then and cried alot to him to not do that. Immediately after him leaving, i started falling in love with him even more. Few days ago i found out he's dating another girl, again someone who's more successful, has a better job, looks healthy, has a nicer body, is richer, has alot of hobbies And i can't help but compare myself to her and subconsciously try to become like her and get into same hobbies as her even though I'm aware that's not gonna get me anything. It's been years but i haven't moved on from him and i keep wishing something happens and i see him one last time. I don't know what my question is but i just wanted to write this out. If you have advice or have something to say, I'll be glad. Thanks.”
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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker
I am also a women and I can understand what you are experiencing, when the other person says no our brain automatically wants that. Its like chasing and all that, I also did that comparing with the other women and feeling I am not enough for him, but I can say that all that looks job body doesn't matter when it comes to relationship or love. That will never going to be enough for love. What you are is enough and someone will come for us who feel that you are the prize like you are feeling with that person. Chasing him doesn't make him come back it will make you loose your self confidence. There will be a person for you who will see you as a prize that will definitely happen when you see yourself as a prize because you are .
I hope you will see the real worth of you and wait for the right person because when the right person is with you, your every scar will become a star.
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Another soul answered...
men are stupid asf girl and idk what high horse they be riding but theyre not worth the effort and energy even if a man seems to be a saint hes gonna turn into satan soon idk if i have anything helpful for you 😭 but youre so much more than that and dont let a “man” make you question your worth, youre definitely amazing and i hope love and life finds you well