I was in a situationship more like a relationship with a guy i met in school..he was one year younger than me i was in 9th he was in 8th when he saw me for the first time I didn't know who he was until my friends from his class came said to me about him that he likes me. He never spoke to me in school it was just those 2mins eye contact during break because we were not even in same class...and one day during march 2023 he texted for the first time in insta saying.. hi! I'm __ from 8th standard sorry for what my friends did today in school (his friends shouted his name while i was near his class ) and then we started speaking everyday since then till now I was in my 10th standard yet I used to speak to him for hours and hours sometimes till 3am yk those initial days where u want to know everything about them and ngl ig I was loving the attention i was getting from him. Days passed we got close to eachother..After 10th i had to leave school to go college for 11th i thought we won't be able see eachother everyday so we gonna stop talking but no we started speaking even more. But we never spoke irl..in school it wasn't possible because of his friends and later I had to leave school
..later a year he finished his 10th and joined to same college I was in ...and there his first day of 11th standard and I was in 12th we spoke for the first time IRL and I still remember how nervous I was lol. And then later that year we met once in corner house and every now and then in clg so yeah it continued allll the way from sep 2023 to sep 2026 ..and now from 2026 everything just feels off because he started giving me less time and I wanted to meet him irl but he was just keep giving reasons but there was a time where he used to beg me to meet him irl and we have meet like 10 to 15 times outside other than clg...now I've completed my 12th and now I'm in different clg hes in 12th.
He suddenly so stressed about many things, he had his family problems i understand but I was not loved like he did before...everything was fine till this year mid now things are really bad.
31st of oct he decided to say it's all over now this relationship is of no use im done from u and your toxic thoughts and all those ....and and this isn't the first time this happened this whole month we both spoke just about leaving eachother just arguments. Yesterday what he did completely broke me. Now I dont feel that desire to be with him like before I am too tired but i also feel guilty because 31st oct he said it's all over now but came back on 1st no saying "ig i missed u" and he has done this like thrice this month but the last two times I was happy he came back. But this time I don't feel that spark. And probably my brain has convinced me he isn't the one. Also there's no future for us I feel...a year younger diff caste my parents will not agree mostly and then now such arguments all these makes me feel so overwhelmed. Idk what am I supposed to do now. Yesterday night I said him I'll say my answer tomorrow...he said I'll always love u baby but im scared hes gonna leave again and again come saying I miss u I love u ....what am I supposed to do

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I was in a situationship more like a relationship with a guy i met in school..he was one year younger than me i was in 9th he was in 8th when he saw me for the first time I didn't know who he was until my friends from his class came said to me about him that he likes me. He never spoke to me in school it was just those 2mins eye contact during break because we were not even in same class...and one day during march 2023 he texted for the first time in insta saying.. hi! I'm __ from 8th standard sorry for what my friends did today in school (his friends shouted his name while i was near his class ) and then we started speaking everyday since then till now I was in my 10th standard yet I used to speak to him for hours and hours sometimes till 3am yk those initial days where u want to know everything about them and ngl ig I was loving the attention i was getting from him. Days passed we got close to eachother..After 10th i had to leave school to go college for 11th i thought we won't be able see eachother everyday so we gonna stop talking but no we started speaking even more. But we never spoke irl..in school it wasn't possible because of his friends and later I had to leave school 
..later a year he finished his 10th and joined to same college I was in ...and there his first day of 11th standard and I was in 12th we spoke for the first time IRL and I still remember how nervous I was lol. And then later that year we met once in corner house and every now and then in clg so yeah it continued allll the way from sep 2023 to sep 2026 ..and now from 2026 everything just feels off because he started giving me less time and I wanted to meet him irl but he was just keep giving reasons but there was a time where he used to beg me to meet him irl and we have meet like 10 to 15 times outside other than clg...now I've completed my 12th and now I'm in different clg hes in 12th.
He suddenly so stressed about many things, he had his family problems i understand but I was not loved like he did before...everything was fine till this year mid now things are really bad.
31st of oct he decided to say it's all over now this relationship is of no use im done from u and your toxic thoughts and all those ....and and this isn't the first time this happened this whole month we both spoke just about leaving eachother just arguments. Yesterday what he did completely broke me. Now I dont feel that desire to be with him like before I am too tired but i also feel guilty because 31st oct he said it's all over now but came back on 1st no saying "ig i missed u" and he has done this like thrice this month but the last two times I was happy he came back. But this time I don't feel that spark. And probably my brain has convinced me he isn't the one.  Also there's no future for us I feel...a year younger diff caste my parents will not agree mostly and then now such arguments all these makes me feel so overwhelmed.  Idk what am I supposed to do now. Yesterday night I said him I'll say my answer tomorrow...he said I'll always love u baby but im scared hes gonna leave again and again come saying I miss u I love u ....what am I supposed to do

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I think you should leave him because as a girl there are lot of things we have to face for each every single thing we do .now your  mind has partially prepared it for the separation and cons of the relationship he will say he will love you always may be he will but he just attached to you so much that he can't leave you easily and same goes for you. You have your whole life waiting for you if you have  a gut feeling he will not love you like before he comes backs it starts giving you so stress . Believe me Gurl when a relationship in early age(in teenage) starts giving so much stress it is not gonna last long it will become worst or toxic. So try to make yourself busy and maintain distance from him it will not be easy but trust me it will save you from a lot of stress and save your mental health.