I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 yrs and he never cheated on me but he never treated me well he used to make fun of me for my financial conditions and used to abuse me mentally even his friends had started making fun of me because of him he used to say you have no life of your own you belong to me you'll only do what I say like he was the one deciding if I am going to a family function or not and most of the time he wouldn't allow me to go even after all this he had never bought me anything like on my b'day,our anniversary or valentine and on his b'day he used to tell me that buy me a jeans I told him okay I'll buy you and then I came across a situation where I could buy him a jeans for his b'day or use that money to pay my clg fee(i was in a local clg and fee was very less like 2450) and I had to pay my clg fee cuz there were fights going in between my parents at that time I was very afraid of asking for money at that time so I left with 50 rs after paying the fee and I told him that can I buy you your b'day gift after b'day like I told him the reason also buy he was like"agar tujhe dilana hee nhi tha toh phle hee bol deti abb bahane bna rhi hai aur tere pas hai hee nhi itne paise ki tu mujhe dila ske hai kya tere pas rhne de mujhe gift dene vale aur bhot hai mere dost aur ghr Wale aur ek kaam kr jo hum milte hai na toh unn dino ke jitne paise bante hai sab dede mujhe vapas" I was deeply sad after hearing these words that I started crying but all he did was ended the call and also didn't pick the call the whole night I was crying the whole night and next day in the morning I texted him to wish b'day and he replied but then he didn't talk to me the entire day only at night and also he didn't invite me to his b'day party and there was a girl she was his frnd's gf he talked to her on WhatsApp and when I found that I told him to show the chats but he said I'll show you later and he deleted those chats later and he used to told me that you are the most important person of my life you're even more important than my parents and even after a small fights like one day one of my friends has her SSC CGL exam and when she was coming home I called her asked about her exam and while I was on call he called me in the middle and got to know that I'm taking to someone then I called him again and he asked me with whom were you talking I told him that she was my friend at this he started abusing me that why do you call her you should've asked me about the exam i should've told you by asking my friends and he literally make mountain out of mole hill and the fight grew very large even that day he said"sex worker,r*andi " to me I was so much hurt that I was just crying and begging to him pls stop saying these words and instead of comforting me he was like roti reh mujhe frk nhi pdta and then a day came when I realised my self worth and broke up with him he was crying pls don't go but I hadn't listened to me.
Can a boy or girl who is in a relationship rn tell me that would you treat your girl whom you are saying you're important to me like this or do your partner treat you like this cuz my mind has believed the fact that there is no love for me in this world no one can love me cuz of someone's parents treat them like shit at home everybody outside will treat them like shit too

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I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 yrs and he never cheated on me but he never treated me well he used to make fun of me for my financial conditions and used to abuse me mentally even his friends had started making fun of me because of him he used to say you have no life of your own you belong to me you'll only do what I say like he was the one deciding if I am going to a family function or not and most of the time he wouldn't allow me to go even after all this he had never bought me anything like on my b'day,our anniversary or valentine and on his b'day he used to tell me that buy me a jeans I told him okay I'll buy you and then I came across a situation where I could buy him a jeans for his b'day or use that money to pay my clg fee(i was in a local clg and fee was very less like 2450) and I had to pay my clg fee cuz there were fights going in between my parents at that time I was very afraid of asking for money at that time so I left with 50 rs after paying the fee and I told him that can I buy you your b'day gift after b'day like I told him the reason also buy he was like"agar tujhe dilana hee nhi tha toh phle hee bol deti abb bahane bna rhi hai aur tere pas hai hee nhi itne paise ki tu mujhe dila ske hai kya tere pas rhne de mujhe gift dene vale aur bhot hai mere dost aur ghr Wale aur ek kaam kr jo hum milte hai na toh unn dino ke jitne paise bante hai sab dede mujhe vapas" I was deeply sad after hearing these words  that I started crying but all he did was ended the call and also didn't pick the call the whole night I was crying the whole night and next day in the morning I texted him to wish b'day and he replied but then he didn't talk to me the entire day only at night and also he didn't invite me to his b'day party and there was a girl she was his frnd's gf he talked to her on WhatsApp and when I found that I told him to show the chats but he said I'll show you later and he deleted those chats later and he used to told me that you are the most important person of my life you're even more important than my parents and even after a small fights like one day one of my friends has her SSC CGL exam and when she was coming home I called her asked about her exam and while I was on call he called me in the middle and got to know that I'm taking to someone then I called him again and he asked me with whom were you talking I told him that she was my friend at this he started abusing me that why do you call her you should've asked me about the exam i should've told you by asking my friends and he literally make mountain out of mole hill and the fight grew very large even that day he said"sex worker,r*andi " to me I was so much hurt that I was just crying and begging to him pls stop saying these words and instead of comforting me he was like roti reh mujhe frk nhi pdta and then a day came when I realised my self worth and broke up with him he was crying pls don't go but I hadn't listened to me.
 Can a boy or girl who is in a relationship rn tell me that would you treat your girl whom you are saying you're important to me like this or do your partner treat you like this cuz my mind has believed the fact that there is no love for me in this world no one can love me cuz of someone's parents treat them like shit at home everybody outside will treat them like shit too

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hey no not everyone is like this , so good that u broke up , haven't seen a bigger red flag than him . And I would never treat my gf like this if she really means the whole world to me , I could never do that . He was just heartless. So do not lose hope there are many good people put there . You will find someone who will actually treat u like u mean the whole world to him so don't worry