“I was in a relationship but we broke up the reason was that I found out that she was benching a another guy when i got to know at that time, I was very shocked I told her to stop talking with guy it affects me then she said she cant do that and i will say stop with every guy that she talks with and we had huge fights and arguments over this then we just broke up. But after the I could move on so then still went back to her in about 2 months and asked lets come back together and I cant live without you I am very much emotionally attached this convincing thing went for almost a 4-5 months during that i moved to germany but still i was thinking of her i still use to text her but she just use to give dry reply’s or ignore me this went up for a few months and after that there was a silence for around 6 months i didn’t texted her she didn’t texted me then I got to know she also moved to germany so I just formally texted her i got know you also moved to germany and just had normal conversation then I just brought up that may be we should meet sometime cause we both are here in that conversation period also she was giving dry replies and ignoring my msgs and then there was again a silence for almost a year I didnt texted she didnt replied then after a year she just randomly texted apology mag that she feel dmsorry for how she treated me when I use to text her she use give dry replies and even ignored my mgs she said she was not emotionally ready to speak to me and she still of me sometimes then I acknowledged her text said I understand ok and then we agin had normal conversation about our day to day life and everything and then I just brought up that can we meet she agreed and we met last week at that meeting I was very chill I didn’t talked about our past or anything just keeping it normal and reply her questions and share something about me as well then she wanted to go back she I just said normally that may be we can meet like this another tome also not immediately but in future she said yes at that time and we both went back to our places after reaching home I just texted formally did she reached she said yes and also asked about me the next morning I texted normally that it was nice meeting you yesterday and she not feeling also so I just asked formally that if she feeling better now she said yes she is much better and also thanked me for asking it and after that she texted immigration that she was thinking of it say so is saying that she thinks we should meet anymore I didnt know what happened just the night before she agreed and next morning she is saying no so i just said can we talk on call for 5 mins? Then she agreed and wee had a call I asked what happened we had such a nice meet you agreed yesterday and now you are telling no she said she had a feeling that it better for both of us that we dont meet I didnt argued i just ok now just listen to me i want to confess it to you i dont want any answer I knew your answer so I confessedd my feeling that it been 2 year life has changed a lot for both of us many people came in life but I think I still love you for any normal person with in 2 year they easily get loved on and I dont I am not getting a closer and I thinks it because I have true love on you that why I still keeping thinking about you within this 2 year many ups and downs happened every-time i was thinking of you that i could shared this moment with you by my side but reality was different you were not there i am just telling you because inky you and me in this world can under That and noone else if you a little also feeling about me I want to ask you can give us a chance I mean I really love you from my heart then she just replied sorry but no I said i dont know what to do its been 2 year and I am getting a closure she said you have to find it yourself for i did
Now that was last time we were talking and I knew that she wont talk with me anymore it was going to be done for good
Now I have two questions that are eating me
1) That if she thinks that we should meet anymore then why she did agreed to meet at the first place and
2) why did she texted me after one year gap in the middle
Whatever my shit I was facing with I living with it i was eating the pain in grief by myself why did she initiated the contact again and creating hopes and then again rejecting me I am not a toy that she can use it any how
Now the problems I am facing are I am not getting a closure for feeling for her and the second and these two questions
Let me know if you can help me out with this situation or give any advice.
Thank-you for listening to my story!”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Hi see the point is anything I say right now you won't believe it or anyone because it's not her saying it ...at same I do wanna help by answering your questions with my experience in logic of the dating life and being a female myself and having females around it is Definitely because she knows that you love her and if she is bored or tired from men upsetting her or anything so she knew she can come to anytime....
For your first question she did not think that you should be together she just met you because you felt familiar... And also maybe she know she can have you anytime and not have you anytime...it's all about her always
No for your second question it's the same mentality she knows that you will answer her text so when she is done with trying on people dating with people or maybe having a relationship and not having it work out she will just come to you to check if she still has that charm.... Because you always said it openly that your madly in love
Moments when you answer formally you still answered that's enough for reachchoring her own ego.
Now for the third and most important question the closure... Well you can never have a closer from the person you expecting The closure from... But the closure is way of this and I know you are smart enough to get it... if someone does not wants to stay with you all the time and keeps on taking big gaps in mid keep on hurting u...they they don't like you enough they don't want to be around you they don't value you... Let me ask you one question that you should ask yourself now if you get her right now in this moment do you think that her being there is enough? Let's say you started a relationship with would you not doubt every single day waking up why she did all that you for last 2 years and now being in a relationship? Baby you are just hurt that you were not choosed... And it's okay to be hurt but there is no solution.... Because even now if you get her your doubt daily did she ever love you would she ever love you... That's not worth it