“I was in a long distance relationship with this girl for 1 year and she broke up with me 3 weeks back saying it's not working anymore,we had constant fights but I would pamper her after those because most of them were from my side ( the arguments),we had different opinions in things and that was the reason for most fights ,eg.she had stress from her mom's side like her mom would give her mental torture and even domestic violence then she would bring that mood into the relationship still I never really fought about that too much ,we would insult eachother during fights like triggering the insecurities of eachother which I tried to fix so many times ,both of us had a big ego clash and I would always say we'll end things and she would say leave me ,leave me but I never meant it frm my heart it was only due to frustration,i genuinely understood I was a bit controlling in certain things and I didn't listen to her interests properly when she wanted to tell me about them but I cared about her more than anyone frm my heart ,she controlled smoking and drinking for 7 months because I told her to which was because she got severe chest pain due to chainsmoking and then before 1 week of the breakup she started smoking again which again i tried to slowly make her understand but she said that was her way to cope up with things then came those lies when it was the week before the breakup where she started to slowly distance frm me ,block me on socials one by one and so many lies and then she broke up with me over text ,i didn't even get a chance to talk on call i even said I can change myself I'll not repeat those mistakes of controlling or anything but I didn't get a single chance to learn and change those ,i was okay with her doing all that if it costs the relationship but it was too late ,she told she started moving on slowly 1 month before the breakup and now I'm blocked everywhere,will she comeback? I'm just getting haunted by memories,apart frm certain difference in opinions the sweet times and other connections we had between us was too sweet,i never expected I'll be in this place but I'm lost,she was a sweet girl I used to pamper her like anything when it came to sweet times I meant,everything idk she took it like ,I begged her to one chance I cried so much which I've never done for something in my 20 yrs of life still she was stone hearted and was too cold .she said hurtful things at the end like she wanted a partner who is nearby ,a guy who can smoke and understand the pain in it ,and she told she wanted to do certain things I can't say here too .”
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Someone answered with kindness...
I'm really sorry my brother.I'm like this situation rn, long distance but first we had so many fights just few days ago too, i dropped my ego fully but she's more egoistic so i had so many arguments like i thought i dropped my entire ego,pride self respect to make her happy, yet she's egoistic but now i only dropped my ego this time she's lowering her ego to when i communicate with her deeply saying it's hurting me, she's a wonderful person too bit with ego issues, really man idk what to say, my gf said she's leaving so many times and blocked me I'm going through emotional breakup everytime. But i just being me without overthinking so i love her like before dispite these behaviour from her. Man i still believe there's still a chance just trust me withdraw full ego , bit talk like sensitive not nonchalant, communicate without getting mad ,if ur gf get mad just love her more with patience, like they have to feel that they are hurting you ,bro you gott this buddy