I think I lost the track of my life , it's like nothing is working out for me , I am gaining weight, having stubborn harmonial acne , and having severe hairfall, and accadamic blacklogs , I was an overachiever myself till 17 , now since 5 years I can't get hold on my life anymore ,it's frustrating , loosing my frds , no one to hangout with , I used to have like 15 bestfrds , now I don't even like it when somebody says hi, don't know what to do , any suggestions on how I put together all of these

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

First of all, I want you to know that you're not a failure just because life doesn't look the way you imagined it would. Sometimes, we go through phases where everything seems to fall apart at once and it's especially difficult when you remember the person you used to be and wonder where that version of you went.
But please don't measure your worth by how academically successful, physically attractive, productive or socially active you used to be. You're still the same person, even if you're struggling right now.
I would suggest not trying to fix everything at once. Start with small things. Get your sleep schedule back on track, eat properly, go for a walk and try to reconnect with one person you feel comfortable around. Don't force yourself to become your old self overnight. Give yourself time to build a new routine and rediscover what makes you happy.
Also, please don't ignore the hormonal acne, weight changes and severe hair fall. Consider consulting a doctor or dermatologist to understand what's happening rather than blaming yourself for it.
And about friendships, it's okay if your circle has become smaller. Having two genuine people is better than having fifteen connections that don't make you feel understood.
Most importantly, please don't isolate yourself with all these thoughts. Talk to someone you trust and consider speaking to a professional if this has been affecting you for years.

You haven't lost your potential. You're just going through a difficult chapter and this chapter doesn't have to define the rest of your life. Take it one day at a time. Take care bud, love and hug! ❤️