Someone once asked...

“I recently broke up with my boyfriend because I never felt emotionally safe, loved, appreciated, or understood in the relationship. I constantly felt unheard, emotionally neglected, and unimportant. He rarely made an effort, couldn't stand up for me, and even made me feel insecure about myself. I know I had my reasons for leaving, and I don't want him back, but I still miss him, look for him whenever I go out, check his location, and overthink his random Snapchat interactions. I'm struggling to detach even though I know he isn't the person I want. But what scares me the most is karma. What if someday I fall in love again, give someone everything, and he leaves me the way I left my ex? I genuinely don't want to hurt anyone, but don't I deserve to choose myself too? I'm tired of loving people wholeheartedly and not receiving the same love in return. I just want to be loved without begging for the bare minimum, but I'm terrified that choosing myself now will somehow make me experience the same heartbreak in the future.”

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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker

Gurl don't be afraid of karma . It doesn't work that way . You loved him whole heartedly , gave your all, made efforts and karma will send you someone who will do the same without having to ask. Just believe in one sentence "if he wants to, he will." Don't be afraid of anything. You will meet someone eventually who will do all the efforts and love you for the way you're endlessly. And for how I know? I was once in a situation like this but eventually I have found someone who loves me for the way I am . Sooo... Don't overthink you will moveon from him soon. Idk you but I will pray for you to have a good , healthy and successful life ahead.

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Another soul answered...

i dont think we fall in love only once and not every person u date is going to be a copy of the previous one. But u definitely wouldn't want a rebound rn or rush into being in another relationship cs that js ain gonna help. If you are lonely cs u miss him try to do things which u personally love and keep yourself busy now. A fresh breakup hurts a lot, u js need time or a great tv show to keep u distracted. If i had to give u one unsolicited advice as your elder sister id js say men are all trash, u wont be benefited when in a relationship, but it's very normal to feel lonely but sometimes u gotta have some self respect hon

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