“I met this friend group when I joined college, but over time, I've started feeling increasingly left out and unappreciated. One of the girls, R, is very dominating and usually makes all the decisions. During an electronics exam, I helped her desolder her entire PC, even though I had my own work to finish. I rushed through my work because of that and lost 0.5 marks. When I couldn't help her with something else, she threatened that she wouldn't help me in the future. There have also been times when I asked a friend for help with my studies but was simply told to ask someone else. They make plans without properly informing me, cancel plans without being honest (or at least that's what I strongly suspect), and sometimes make me feel like I'm not really part of the group. One of them frequently asks me for money, and I sometimes feel that they keep me around because I'm good at taking pictures for them. They post things like "my universe," "my world," and "best friends forever" on social media, but their actions don't reflect those words. Sometimes they treat me nicely, which makes everything even more confusing. I'm emotionally exhausted by this friendship, and I've decided that I want to distance myself from them, but I honestly don't know how to do it.”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Been in a sort of similar situation and the best solution I got at that time was " to stop hanging out with them" and it did seem like a solid advice but I just couldn't do it cus there were some good times too and it sort of became a routine to spend time and stuff . I ended up feeling very lonely and anxious all the time. But I think maybe you should decrease the time you spend with them try to do your own stuff branch out find more connections .
I tried and I won't say I got another amazing group or sth but I found 2 , 3 people who shared my interests and that sort of helped me deal with the groups antics better. Also at times you gotta be stren and say no to stuff you don't want to do or give .
I hope you don't loose your self esteem and time going after ppl who don't see your value.
Stay strong.