“I made a new friend when I was in 11th grade(Now I'm about to finish my college) we became very close.. I used to share the deepest trauma with her which I've never even told my childhood friends about and she shares everything with me also and I genuinely thought she understands me the most. We were just as close till our first year in college( we went to different college) but in the second year she started ghosting me... Like in the start it was always me who texts first who calls first she does respond then slowly ghosted me I didn't know what to do... One day she sent a long message saying sorry and ghosted me again but atleast that gave me assurance that she's okay so I didn't text or call her anymore and she called me after some 4months and said because one of her family member's health condition was so bad that's the reason for ghosting so I accepted it and we started talking again only for her to ghost me again... So I stopped but she wouldn't let me go it was always on and off texting me long sorry message and it happened 4-5 times.. The point is even when she was ghosting me she was posting stories with her new friends I am happy for her but my self respect is all crushed and I feel pathetic asf ... I finally unfollowed and removed her and she gives me follow again and I'm tempted to accept it again... I mean there's a limit to everything gang... I feel truly pathetic to the point of Being scared to make new friends
How do I get out of this?”
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Someone answered with kindness...
say you dont feel like it's working anymore and you dont want to talk anymore. it's really not okay behavior and it's making you upset. friends move on and you need to accept that.
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Wandering voices — answers no one has read yet
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Another soul answered...
at first, it would be really hard for you accept the fact that your own close friend is ghosting, but then eventually you will get used to it..thats why you were able to make the BOLD MOVE of UNFOLLOWING HER.. cuz at the end of the day, your self respect matters .. the temptation of you to accept when she gives request is pretty normal .. cuz unfollowing her was one of ur move to get distracted from the feeling of feeling ghosted .. so when u r trying to get out of it, and she giving u req again .. is something that will make u feel to accept it again .. but TRUST ME... just hold ur temptatins and leave her on req itself ... eventually you will be okay.. there is no exact solution to get out of cuz at the end of the day , she was so cllose toyou ... you guys had no grudges, no dramas or no problems directly .. it was just the actions that made you feel bad and thats okay .. sometimes the solution to get out of a problem is to just go through the shit, get hurt, express ur emotion and eventually you will get out of this ...
idk if all of these makes sense to you but just my pov