I lost my mother a year ago, and around the same time, I went through a breakup. Since then, I’ve been carrying a lot of grief and sadness. After almost a year, someone new came into my life, we developed feelings for each other, and eventually got into a relationship because I genuinely liked him.

But lately, I feel like I’m not loved enough. It’s not that he doesn’t make efforts; he does. We spend time together, watch movies and do things, but I still wish we went out more and made more memories together. Sometimes, I feel like he’s involved in everyone’s life except mine, which makes me feel taken for granted.

The confusing part is that I know he’s trying his best, but somehow, nothing feels enough. I don’t even know what I’m expecting from him anymore. Maybe it’s the grief I’ve been carrying since losing my mother, or maybe I’m just expecting something I can’t explain. I’m genuinely confused.

Question

I lost my mother a year ago, and around the same time, I went through a breakup. Since then, I’ve been carrying a lot of grief and sadness. After almost a year, someone new came into my life, we developed feelings for each other, and eventually got into a relationship because I genuinely liked him.

But lately, I feel like I’m not loved enough. It’s not that he doesn’t make efforts; he does. We spend time together, watch movies and do things, but I still wish we went out more and made more memories together. Sometimes, I feel like he’s involved in everyone’s life except mine, which makes me feel taken for granted.

The confusing part is that I know he’s trying his best, but somehow, nothing feels enough. I don’t even know what I’m expecting from him anymore. Maybe it’s the grief I’ve been carrying since losing my mother, or maybe I’m just expecting something I can’t explain. I’m genuinely confused.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hey, I understand whatever you are feeling. Maybe you don't feel valued enough because you haven't processed letting go your past relationship yet be it you. Take a break for a while sit with your grief and mourn the loss and then you'll gradually be able to be over it. Also talk to your partner about whatever you are going through and help him understand you better rather than you being confused and keep on questioning your worth.I hope it helps.