I just don't get how to be a good person whenever i try to be myself mess up or end up hurting the other person, but when i try to be the good person i end up doing too much and eventually i become a people pleaser so i m not understanding how to be a better version of myself, to be honest i m constantly trying for 5-6 years but o success and if i do too much i lose myself or my value,i just end up doing toooo much

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I just don't get how to be a good person whenever  i try to be myself mess up or end up hurting the other person, but when i try to be the good person i end up doing too much and eventually i become a people pleaser so i m not understanding how to be a better version of myself, to be honest i m constantly trying for 5-6 years but o success and if i do too much i lose myself or my value,i just end up doing toooo much

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Being a good person doesn't mean always putting others first or making sure nobody ever gets hurt. It means learning from your mistakes, being honest, being kind and knowing when to say no.
You don't have to lose yourself to become a better person or keep giving more just to prove that you care.You deserve to be kind to yourself too. You can still grow, make mistakes, set boundaries and be loved without having to do too much.  You got this buddyy!!!