I have this friend A, I met online in a new city back around May 2025. Gradually we met every Sundays, daily texting and even calls. Then around August I said something I shouldn't have which he took it to heart and we stopped talking. On November 1st he texted me like normal and we started talking normal.

In the span of no contact I went on some dates. By the first week of December I met this guy B online, and we went on a date on 14th. And started dating from 25th.

I didn't told A much cause it was a very fresh relationship and I wasn't sure if it will last. And with A my last chat was on 22nd. So on 4th Jan A texted asking to meet not knowing B had bailed on me. So yeah I went to meet A after informing B.

While out with A, B called, a mild argument simply on misunderstanding due to his jealousy. So A found out about B and since then I used to tell him about any issue. And A started to hop on calls with me a bit more often. But of course B was my priority cause he was my boyfriend.

And on 1st of Jan I got intimate with B.

Close to 26th Jan, a online friend wanted to meet. He is complete jokester, he texted me a joke while I was on call with B, I told B. B got mad. And that argument tapered out till 31st Jan.

About this argument I told A. And A listened and supported me. Before 26th there were several more arguments. B once said "can we name our future girl child after my ex?" when I denied, he made it a scene.

On 28th A texted me "don't you check snap?" I asked about it, and he said a questionable snap went. And let me tell you A has multiple people on snap, and we don't share snap streaks.
After consenting, I didn't really care and we diverted to something else. Then he followed up with, "if you are free call me later on tonight"

So I did.

We had normal conversations. I don't remember chunks of it.

And from this point on based on the arguments I knew nothing could be fixed between me and B. And A got comfortable enough to resend the shirtless photo and lower gradually.

On 31st 12am I wished happy birthday to A, he was joking and normally but also few sexual joke, followed by asking to call. And on that same day around 2pm, I had my breakup with B.

On Feb 1st I met with A, normal. Then things escalated with kissing till a bit oral stuff from my end. And this continued for months. I won't go in much details.

It's 3rd of November and other than the almost not all but almost all Sundays, oral stuff he received. And around 3 or 4 times of intimacy.

He had been considerate of my periods, ipill induced periods, didn't forced me but there were some time he was a bit nagging. He since day 1 have paid for everything. And during these months he once got me roses.

Now around May he got drunk and voice noted a 5 minutes message. Which he soon deleted. He quickly deleted it. After 4hours of texting and calls, he said he basically felt guilty about what he was doing and that he genuinely likes me and never wished to make things sexual amongst us. He even said, I know you like me. When asked why didn't you say earlier, his answer "will it change anything?"

We moved on from there, no further talks about that night. A month later same thing a 6min voice note, this time he didn't delete. And I heard it, in his voice slightly tipsy "I like you".

He again chickened out when I tried to talk about it.

So yeah anyways around early October I was emotional and on call kept saying you don't care about me and whatever you said drunk were were lies. He consoled me, babied me and in sober said "I like you"

On Nov 1st we got intimate from the 3rd or 4th time. All I could worry was I looked unflattering and he was lasting for so long like 3hours. And after that he as often paid for my ride home, extras for ice cream. And I have been more emotional as I had told him today on Nov 3rd, "you don't care about me or pay attention to me anymore since sunday" he explained he was sleeping and stuff, which is True. But still. The conversation ended with a cold response from his end.

Sometimes he would face a problem irrespective of my involvement and then ghost. Like he would stop contacting for days, if I don't reach out from my side.

He if not coming, sends me money to buy whatever I like whenever possible, gets me chocolates as parting week on every Sunday whenever possible.

Though I feel like I am the one always reaching out unlike back in January or February.

I feel like crying sometimes. I like him way too much to let go, but the more I stay with him I am confused. What are we? What does he thinks of me? Of us? Do I matter to him? Will we ever be official?

Also side note, B has tried to reach out three times. First time we had a conversation. Second time I lost my temper cause he was trying to be the victim of the breakup, when for days he talked about my body/hips, when he said "your childhood trauma is not should be my suffering cause", before 31st Jan breakup like around 30th Jan, B asked "if everything goes well, can we get intimate on 1st of Feb"

A knew about B reappearance.

Question

I have this friend A, I met online in a new city back  around May 2025. Gradually we met every Sundays, daily texting and even calls. Then around August I said something I shouldn't have which he took it to heart and we stopped talking. On November 1st he texted me like normal and we started talking normal.

In the span of no contact I went on some dates.  By the first week of December I met this guy B online, and we went on a date on 14th. And started dating from 25th.

I didn't told A much cause it was a very fresh relationship and I wasn't sure if it will last. And with A my last chat was on 22nd. So on 4th Jan A texted asking to meet not knowing B had bailed on me. So yeah I went to meet A after informing B.

While out with A, B called, a mild argument simply on misunderstanding due to his jealousy. So A found out about B and since then I used to tell him about any issue. And A started to hop on calls with me a bit more often. But of course B was my priority cause he was my boyfriend.

And on 1st of Jan I got intimate with B.

Close to 26th Jan, a online friend wanted to meet. He is complete jokester, he texted me a joke while I was on call with B, I told B. B got mad. And that argument tapered out till 31st Jan.

About this argument I told A. And A listened and supported me. Before 26th there were several more arguments. B once said "can we name our future girl child after my ex?" when I denied, he made it a scene.

On 28th A texted me "don't you check snap?" I asked about it, and he said a questionable snap went. And let me tell you A has multiple people on snap, and we don't share snap streaks.
After consenting, I didn't really care and we diverted to something else. Then he followed up with, "if you are free call me later on tonight"

So I did.

We had normal conversations. I don't remember chunks of it.

And from this point on based on the arguments I knew nothing could be fixed between me and B. And A got comfortable enough to resend the shirtless photo and lower gradually.

On 31st 12am I wished happy birthday to A, he was joking and normally but also few sexual joke, followed by asking to call. And on that same day around 2pm, I had my breakup with B.

On Feb 1st I met with A, normal. Then things escalated with kissing till a bit oral stuff from my end. And this continued for months. I won't go in much details.

It's 3rd of November and other than the almost not all but almost all Sundays, oral stuff he received. And around 3 or 4 times of intimacy.

He had been considerate of my periods, ipill induced periods, didn't forced me but there were some time he was a bit nagging. He since day 1 have paid for everything. And during these months he once got me roses.

Now around May he got drunk and voice noted a 5 minutes message. Which he soon deleted. He quickly deleted it. After 4hours of texting and calls, he said he basically felt guilty about what he was doing and that he genuinely likes me and never wished to make things sexual amongst us. He even said, I know you like me. When asked why didn't you say earlier, his answer "will it change anything?"

We moved on from there, no further talks about that night. A month later same thing a 6min voice note, this time he didn't delete. And I heard it, in his voice slightly tipsy "I like you".

He again chickened out when I tried to talk about it.

So yeah anyways around early October I was emotional and on call kept saying you don't care about me and whatever you said drunk were were lies. He consoled me, babied me and in sober said "I like you"

On Nov 1st we got intimate from the 3rd or 4th time. All I could worry was I looked unflattering and he was lasting for so long like 3hours. And after that he as often paid for my ride home, extras for ice cream. And I have been more emotional as I had told him today on Nov 3rd, "you don't care about me or pay attention to me anymore since sunday" he explained he was sleeping and stuff, which is True. But still. The conversation ended with a cold response from his end.

Sometimes he would face a problem irrespective of my involvement and then ghost. Like he would stop contacting for days, if I don't reach out from my side.

He if not coming, sends me money to buy whatever I like whenever possible, gets me chocolates as parting week on every Sunday whenever possible.

Though I feel like I am the one always reaching out unlike back in January or February.

I feel like crying sometimes. I like him way too much to let go, but the more I stay with him I am confused. What are we? What does he thinks of me? Of us? Do I matter to him? Will we ever be official?

Also side note, B has tried to reach out three times. First time we had a conversation. Second time I lost my temper cause he was trying to be the victim of the breakup, when for days he talked about my body/hips, when he said "your childhood trauma is not should be my suffering cause", before 31st Jan breakup like around 30th Jan, B asked "if everything goes well, can we get intimate on 1st of Feb"

A knew about B reappearance.

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