“I have gone thru a lot of..things..at home....i am a teenager, let's say around 17-18 , and my parents constantly argue with each other...they used to have massive fights or arguments when I was younger...nowadays when someone raises their voice, I feel uncomfortable. I want to cry a lot,but I cant...i sleep,eat,procrastinate a lot....My mom keeps dumping her emotional baggage, marriage problems, family problems on me...Sharing is one thing ,but trauma dumping ??? I am genuinely tired , and I am scared of even loving anyone ,or thoughts of marrying someone, because all I've seen is how a relationship should not work....That day my dad even slapped my mom, but they have made up now...i am scared ,I feel insecure and ungrateful ...my parents have given me everything,but they are toxic too...like my mom keeps saying stuff like 'i wish you were never born, I made mistake giving birth to youu, I sacrificed soo much for you,ruined my life for you' and all of this makes me feel like a burden... If she says she wants to leave the house and i disagree, cuz its a big decision and i cant leave the big house ive lived in since my birth ,she says im a bad daughter and turned put like the rest of the selfish people in her life...i dont know if I'm overreacting or what, but what should I do? I wanna feel emotionally secure for once...”
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Someone answered with kindness...
Really i can feel you, i can give you an advice don't fall in love with just a person, make sure he is putting efforts, you have tooo put efforts btw but if he really wants you he will showup for you, loyalty, caring, efforts, understandings, communication these things both have to do it. I'm falling in love with a woman we have reality possibilities are nearly zero but i feel better with her. We both cried a lot because she argued with me