“I have a friend. We know each other from nearly 8 years. I always had a soft corner for him. He knew it . My bestfriend knew it and bestfriend' s brother who is apparently that that guy's bestfriend knew it too. But from last 1 year we were not in contact because I shifted from the place I was living earlier .A month back when I was at that place again he contacted me . We talked for 4 5 days . He invited me to his house to spend some time together. I went there . We spent some time together and then he kissed me . I didn't reciprocate because I don't know how to kiss. He then asked me if he can teach me how to kiss. I gave a nod. Then we had a proper kiss . When I went back home he didn't contact me for 2 3 days. I told my bestfriend about it . She said he isn't virgin his body count is like 3 or 4 . I didn't respond to it . After some days I met his bestfriend also my bestfriend's brother . I asked him what happened to his bestfriend. He asked me if I took him seriously to which I said no but he is ignoring me from the moment we kissed. He said don't take him seriously I'm telling this for you safety. Then I came back from there. When I was talking to my bestfriend about it she told me I didn't want to tell you because you would feel bad but let me tell you that guy told my brother and sister that she (me) don't know anything (he meant sexually) and that he would not feel good if we do anything sexual that is why he ghosted me . I was hurt and disappointed but not angry. When I told all his to her sister and asked her why didn't she tell me all this when I asked her she told me I wanted to but you would have felt bad that's why I didn't. And then she told me when he was saying all this she told him how would she know to do anything sexual she don't do this on a daily basis. He told her that she (me) is a soft hearted girl and she needs someone who would love her and right now I'm not at that space to which she told him then don't talk to her so he told her that's why I ghosted her to which she told him not to ghost me but to tell me the truth that I'm not his type . He told her that I would feel bad about it . It's been almost a month to all this bullshit . I don't know how to get over it . Besides this I had 2 boyfriends earlier and both of them cheated on me . I feel soo dumb rn. I don't know what to do . I'm just 19 year old”
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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker
Tbh at this age you shouldn't let those things bother you that much because you are still very young and have a lot to experience in life so keeping them at the pedestal is not worth it. Yes I understand you are hurt but everyone moves on and you should too. Spend a little time alone with yourself and focus on yourself more. If it bothers them that much they will let you know but to just go after them seeking for answers when they are not in the mood to sort it out is a waste of your time only. And girl you aren't dumb, you just aren't in the right headspace rn that's it.
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Another soul answered...
Idk if u are really in love or is it just limernce u are experiencing with people.make sure to find out what is it attraction? limernce?love because of which u get into relationships.
Start loving yourself and forgiving yourself
Find happiness in your own self don't look for validation or attention tbhh..be yourself u are just 19 i have so much better to do and experience don't be trapped in all this and start finding happiness in yourself, pick some hobbies focus on your carree
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Another soul answered...
Ik I should move on but it's just that as a friend I expected him to talk to me directly rather than ghosting me like a coward because I would have never done this to someone not even my enemies