“i have a boyfriend, three years. he is loyal, is good by heart, i can bet on that. but whether he loves me or not is the question. one and a half month ago, we were fighting daily i kept crying he wont console wont feel hurt, then i left. half month back he came he promised to be gentler nicer everything. one week, he was all that, then one similar fight, he again didnt bother that it was hurting me still, next day he was sorry and cared and promised to not repeat. yesterday again something similar i was having panic attack, i kept crying, he was also overwhelmed but i craved to feel that he would care and he couldn't, not in the worst time. but there is also the truth that i also push him to overwhelm and anger, he is also a human. yet i dont know if its justified. i dont know if i should still believe that he is another simple human who loves me but has his difficulties also. or is it just me trying to not accept the truth that there is no love and if it were there, everything would go wrong but he wouldnt abandon and be insensitive like he was yesterday night”

Another soul answered...

Sometimes there can be love but still not enough to sustain relationship Sometimes someone can be a good person but not a good partner I won't deny the fact that you also push him away and make things difficult But again you have triggers because of some experience When you lack emotional safety in a relationship then you often don't let the other person get too deep or you overthink a lot because safety is missing Loving someone and choosing that love are two different things And from what I am re realising from my incident I think choosing is the actual form of love Even when things are hard If you are not feeling emotionally held or not feeling loved enough then maybe you should talk about this to your partner Partners learn to love each other in the language they know Loving someone is one thing But it is essential to love them in the language they know so that they can feel loved And if you have talked about this to your partner and still things are same then maybe you need to reevaluate Life is too short to keep on negotiating your peace with Had it been mutual efforts to change things then it would have been a diff equation

Another soul answered...

Just one question for you. Do you really think that if he loved you, he would let you cry?? A real man will never let you cry. You may have fights and arguments but he won’t ever leave you hanging. Your bf keeps saying that he won’t repeat it and then does the same thing. This is not what should happen. If he really cared for you, he would’ve changed his behaviour the next time it happened. He keeps saying something but his actions are saying something else. At this point of time, you should only trust his actions and not his words. If his actions make you feel good, happy and secure then he loves you but if his words don’t sync with his actions, you have your answer babygirl. I faced the same thing and that’s why i can feel the pain behind your words. You gotta runn babygirl if he doesn’t follow his own words. I hope that you find someone who never lets you question if he loves you or not.