i had a feelings for someone but i think she doesn't have those type feelings on me. she always treat as a best friend of her's. I had a fear that if i confess my feelings for her may be i lose the friendship also. because she did that thing with few others in her past. i want to move on from her but i keep on thinking about her always. i check my phone always if i got any message or call from her. May be I'm not that attractive in looks. but I'm unable to get rid of those feelings. and I'm not letting other women to enter into my life." is their any solution.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hiii!
 I understand you have feelings for her. Rather than constantly wondering whether she might reciprocate, maybe consider telling her how you genuinely feel. She may accept or reject your feelings, but getting clarity could be better than being stuck with your own thoughts. If you're afraid of losing the friendship, tell her that too. Whatever her response, respect it and accept it gracefully. But remember, you don't HAVE to confess if you aren't comfortable doing so.

If you choose to move on without confessing, remember that you don't need her reply or permission to do that. Start spending time on yourself, exploring your interests and developing hobbies. Also, please don't associate her feelings with your physical attractiveness or self-worth. Attraction is subjective, and her not reciprocating doesn't mean you're lacking in any way. Maybe try reducing the habit of constantly checking your phone for her messages and calls, as it can deepen your attachment and make moving on harder. 
I hope things work out in a way that brings you peace, whether that means being with her or finding the strength to move forward. 
All the best! ❤️
Take care!