“I got no one talk actually. Want someone in my life whom I could tell everything, can talk every single day. I’m also not that open with any of my friends and also have never been in any relationship. Really want a relationship. I feel like no one would choose me. Am not a macho man or a very model type looking. Very calm and gentle I am. Till now it was all fine but now suddenly I feel like I also need someone. When I see couples in public and on social media I kind a have started to feel jealous. Like I have seen every other person in a relationship now, or someone finds them attractive, likes them, but for me, its the opposite. I have never even heard from someone that if someone has ever had a crush on me or someone has said I am attractive although I have got compliments sometimes but again these all came from people elder than me my age people have never told me this (I’m 20). Also I am not a nerd or some unrecognised guy in college or even at my school, have always been in the popular category, been like those funny guys with friends and whose company people enjoy. Have been teachers favourite and very active with the extra curricular and also a good in studies guy. Also love to make short films I made on literally zero budgets and no backing and they somehow got selected at film festivals all over the world. People are there around me but somehow I feel very lonely, I also want some people I could actually call as my close friends and again girlfriend. Have been lately thinking about all this. Especially of having a girlfriend. I don’t know in college I don’t think anyone is worthy of being long term. In school I could never open up to any girl. I am looking for a long term relationship. Really want a date to marry type thing. I actually want to find someone in these years cause I want someone to be with me in my developing years, we grow together and start a family. But I don’t know where can I even find someone. What should I do? What are the places or ways to actually find people cause I have never been like on any dating app or site and I would not like to find someone from there”
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Someone answered with kindness...
For the friend try to talk online about your problemes first what you did is great,then try getting closer to your irl friends so that you can talk about it with a real human.And you can try making new friend too.For the girlfriend if you don't want the dating apps then you will have to meet them for exemple at a restaurant or on vacation.You will have to get better at talking to people