I feel that i am not good enough or rather to be precise not cool enough for the people i am surrounded with. probably cause we all are teens and everyone wants to become popular and you cant be popular unless you are with someone popular. i feel everyone is trying to look for friends whos company makes them popular . i just shifted to a new place and i have found no good connections for the past 3 years that i am here. maybe the fault is me cause i dont talk much and i am not that confident and i really feel left out. hence i keep talking with my old friends which isnt a bad thing but i feel i am clinging to them while they are moving forward in their life and i am just sticking to my delightful past.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

It's okay..you don't always have to fit in. I had few friends who i apparently was close to but i realised once i stopped reaching out to them or making efforts they stopped caring. So it was always one sided. So it's better to be alone than be with the wrong company. I know as a teenager you think being popular or being cool  is what matters the most but i swear it's the least important thing. What matters is being content. Be so confident and happy within yourself that you won't require someone popular to befriend you.  Once you start working on yourself and keeping yourself happy the right ones will come find you. Take your time, you don't have to fit in somewhere you don't belong. You're doing great and someday the real ones will definitely find you. Lots of love