Someone once asked...

“I feel like my life became messy. I don't have good relationship with my dad. The girl with whom I am in relationship is not meeting me or spending time with me because of her fear towards her mom. Her mom is not agreeing for our marriage because I don't have a financial backup. She asked for 6 more months to decide. I put major chunk of my salary towards marriage saving. It's been 4 years in this relationship still she is afraid of her mom. I don't know how long should I wait. I feel longing feeling whenever I meet couples in bike or in beach or in theatre. Sometimes I feel super lonely. I don't know. My career is also not going in a good direction. I've been kept busy but not productive. I'm not getting enough time to upskill myself since I go to office every day and work for 12 - 14 hours. By the evening I feel super tired and sleep. I have tooo many interest in life but don't know how to prioritize.”

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Someone answered with kindness...Thanked by the asker

If she loved you, she wouldn't listen to her mom. We are all adults here. Pay attention to who actually sees your sacrifices. Love and respect are a two-way street. Do not destroy yourself. Look for another job, man! They can replace you at any time, so do not feel bad about replacing them with a better one.

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Another soul answered...

You can see 6 months from today . Because once you guys will be married, you won't be lonely anymore. Also your relationship is already kinda long term , so give it a chance . Mark the date. Don't wait more than 6 months if you see her mom is not responding and making you wait meaninglessly

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Another soul answered...Thanked by the asker

Firstly I will say take a break. Go out this weekend just enjoy on your own. And secondly about your situation right now, don't lose hope, talk to her about how you feel, tell her you have been trying hard and be honest about your current situation, try and convince her mother, and spend time on yourselves too. Don't obsess over having a better job, and being able to financially provide because you might lose yourselves in this process and what good is that?! So I know it's hard but stop working for 12 hours cut some slack and do what interests you and save or invest but don't lose yourselves. If she truly loves you she will understand the effort you are putting in. ALL THE BEST AND I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT 💗