I feel completely lost. I'm overwhelmed with work and feel in way over my head. I’m really struggling to manage the administrative tasks and finances, both personal and professional (I’m a farmer). On top of that, I feel completely neglected by my partner, but I don't dare to leave because I'm terrified of being alone. And whenever I try to talk to her about it, I’m met with a brick wall.

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Look i don't know you or your partner but what I would say is that you need to look out for yourself. First in terms of your partner you need to think about wether you're gaining stree by being with them. The fear of being alone is valid and I have no clue how your friendship life is going but truly if you feel unheard in your relationship then it's not one you should keep. You say you're scared of being alone but with a relationship as closed off as yours it already sounds like you are. Think about it, having a relationship where you barley talk, feel neglected and alone IS being alone. In thee end i think its better to either break ip or get couples counciling though i recommend just breaking up. Um bare with me cause im like 16 and don't have a job but like I think you should take a break and even if it isn't a full week find something that you can do comfortably with yourself. Mabey hobbies that you love or freinds you miss could help. Take a day to yourself to plan, relax and give yourself space to process things. Talking to myself helps me think through all that's bothering you. And if you can't take a break then that's fine just give yourself breaks in the little things like mabey sleep a little longer/go to bed early or eat little more or something like that. Give yourself little favours through the day. As well as that have yourself a full day where you just plan and figure things out. Sometimes a good 24 hours of space to think and plan can help. In the end I hope this helps and that you feel better no matter where you are!