I dont know where to begin but i turned 18 this year and am confused with everything,even about my existence also,,my career,my dreams,my love life and the thing is i am abandoned at every step of my life,my friend,whom i used to think of my real ones they left me only for me to realise they were never really my friend,they were jealous or what idk,,but it hurts,,my brother?who i used to consider as my idol in my life he changed stoped talking to me just cuz his gf said that she does not like me,and he stopped talking to me voila!!!,and heres more,,my parents says that they can just pay ,but everything is onto me,and i dunno whats happening or going on,about my career i am thinking of applying for the cabin crew interview but i hesitate and then delay,even though i have been rejected twice,so i am afraid of wasting more time and always overthink what if this doesnot goes right,or what if i lost my time,i am not expecting someone to help me,i always used to avoid this but i been holding this back ,it aint going to ease me u but at 18 i feel like my life is collapsing and almost nothing is working

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I dont know where to begin but i turned 18 this year and am confused with everything,even about my existence also,,my career,my dreams,my love life and the thing is i am abandoned at every step of my life,my friend,whom i used to think of my real ones they left me only for me to realise they were never really my friend,they were jealous or what idk,,but it hurts,,my brother?who i used to consider as my idol in my life he changed stoped talking to me just cuz his gf said that she does not like me,and he stopped talking to me voila!!!,and heres more,,my parents says that they can just pay ,but  everything is onto me,and  i dunno whats happening or going on,about my career i am thinking of applying for the cabin crew interview but i hesitate and then delay,even though i have been rejected twice,so i am afraid of wasting more time and always overthink what if this doesnot goes right,or what if i lost my time,i am not expecting someone to help me,i always used to avoid this but i been holding this back ,it aint going to ease me u but at 18 i feel like my life is collapsing and almost nothing is working

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hi twin, I am also 18 this year but my life is totally different from yours so I might not understand your struggles completely but I will try helping you. So this phase of life is too confusing so much to decide and our future depends on our choices. Friends leave but it's ok you will find new people who will actually care for you. I have friends who are always jealous of my success, if I got marks better than them then they are upset but they are not that bad but staying away from these type of people is the best you can do for yourself. About your brother i don't know what to say but about your parents well what I can understand from the thing is wrote is that them tell you that they will pay for everything but the hardwork to accomplish your goal is on you, you need to work for your future, your dreams. If this is what they means then it's right only you can help yourself to succeed but yeah we as kids who are just stepping into life need advice, assistance from our close ones even if we don't come on conclusions after advice but that support can help us feel a little better at least. Being lost is ok but try to find your way, what makes you happy ,what you desire, what you wanna be, what can you do to fulfil your dreams. Having someone you can depend on and open up is very nice but if you don't and have to deal with struggles and this lost feeling on your own then it's quite tough but don't give up and don't focus on the odds, but try on focus on small happy things, way to move forward. About cabin crew, is that your dream ?! If yes then work hard and focus on your mistakes that got you rejected twice , improve , learn, grow, develop and have confidence in yourself but if it's not your dream then try finding your dream and stop wasting time on it , and if you can realise your dream then think of those career options that after choosing you might not regret , you might love them, you will have a promising career in them. I am person who love creating stuff, my hobby is drawing so when I tried looking for my career options being an architect was the first thing that I came across ,it wasn't my dream just felt like maybe I would love this so choose it but I wanted to go abroad and i realised that this career wouldn't be beneficial for me there and as it wasn't my dream so I looked for something else so I love tech, IT , computers too so now when I took admission then applied for a course related to IT. I switched to a different option bcz i wasn't my dream and there are many options so why waste time but if I had the dream to be an architect then I would look for how to make it a promising career then I would have gotten a degree in my own country then gone for higher studies abroad and done many small courses then it would have been a promising career but it didn't wanted that long run so I went after my different interest. Other people might help you or maybe not but end decision is only yours so if something confuse you then search more look into it and yeah you might still feel confused so then look at advantages disadvantages etc think think and believe in your own ability to make decisions as moving forward in life many big decisions will need to be made by you only, no one will be able to help you.