I dated this girl for 8 months and 19 days. It started out as a friendship, then we fell in love. It had always been a LDR. It was perfect. The first few months, it was the honeymoon phase, no fights, no agreements, no disagreements, flirting, romantic talks and more. And even after the honeymoon phase was over, ever when the fights started, we still had the same bond. We always chose each other, we made up after fights and arguments, even in the middle of a conflict, we reminded each other that we still love the other and we'll fix this. It was all going great. But then out of nowhere she just broke up with me. The only explaination she gave was that it took genuine effort on her part to simply open my chat, read my messages, reply, listen to my voice notes or pick up my calls. She said that her enthusiasm and willingness to do those things just wasn't there anymore. She didn't give me anything real to work with, no exact reason for the breakup. And then she just blocked me. Vanished.

I'm ofcourse heartbroken. But I need to know, what could've happened? I can't think of a single reason she would want to leave. And I'm just...empty now. My routine is disrupted, she was a part of my daily life and now that she's gone, i feel aimless.

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I dated this girl for 8 months and 19 days. It started out as a friendship, then we fell in love. It had always been a LDR. It was perfect. The first few months, it was the honeymoon phase, no fights, no agreements, no disagreements, flirting, romantic talks and more. And even after the honeymoon phase was over, ever when the fights started, we still had the same bond. We always chose each other, we made up after fights and arguments, even in the middle of a conflict, we reminded each other that we still love the other and we'll fix this. It was all going great. But then out of nowhere she just broke up with me. The only explaination she gave was that it took genuine effort on her part to simply open my chat, read my messages, reply, listen to my voice notes or pick up my calls. She said that her enthusiasm and willingness to do those things just wasn't there anymore. She didn't give me anything real to work with, no exact reason for the breakup. And then she just blocked me. Vanished.

I'm ofcourse heartbroken. But I need to know, what could've happened? I can't think of a single reason she would want to leave. And I'm just...empty now. My routine is disrupted, she was a part of my daily life and now that she's gone, i feel aimless.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I'm not gonna say I relate to this completely but I know the feeling when someone we love with all our heart chooses something or someone. Truth is, according to me, you don't really get over it. You don't have to move on. In fact, it has many meanings. Like, try learning something that reminds you of them. I know that memories aren't always enough, hell, they're never enough but they are worth enough for us to soldier through for what we deserve. Cry and cry till you can get up. I do and all I know is they might come back or... they might not. Whatever happens, don't let yourself lose hope that nothing good will happen in your life again. I did but life proved me very, very wrong. Bye! I hope I helped you.