“I approached my crush and I thought we’d be in relationship but it got complicated he doesn’t want a relationship as he got his heart broken by his ex. I thought I could heal him but somehow I ended up being in a no label relationship with him. I want to love and to get married but he doesn’t want to. I tried multiple times to stop but somehow ended up talking to him again. He’s neither ready to give me a stable relationship nor leave me. Both of our love languages doesn’t match either but somehow we always try to understand and be there for each other. We’re both there for each other for our ups and downs everytime it’s been 3 years and now I know very well that he’s not the one for me as the more we try to adjust and change for each other the more we get hurt . Somehow i can’t leave him even when I knew this doesn’t work out. Idk what to do I’m not even ready to meet any other people other than him. I’d try my everything to be with him if I’m sure that we’d be happy but I knew very well that this wouldn’t work out so I stopped thinking our future and I’m being with to enjoy the time which I have with him. I’m narrow minded with love but somehow ended up in this situation idk what to do. I love him so much yet I can’t be with him or leave him what should I do”
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Someone answered with kindness...
to be fair, this relationship is turning toxic, and a no label relationship with no future is nowhere healthy
option 1: try couple therapy or relationship counselling
option 2: both of you distance yourself from each other for 2 months or so, do not get involve with someone else and try living a life alone. take time for yourselves and then figure out if you still wanna be together or not. being together and trying to find a solution is not possible.
and honestly, you can love someone from the bottom of your heart and sometimes doing it from far is a great option too. if the problem was a third person, you could've fought for the love you have. but in your case you have to fight yourself to love each other. be wise and think long term.