I am so confused [btw eng is my third language] I think i live in a toxic parent environment but then i see other people and they have it worse so i think i am just overreacting or seeking attention from myself [idk how to explain it but hope you got it] i mean they give me food, buy me whatever clothes i want to [that does not mean i buy a lot], internet, and let me study even when there is household work but not good emotionally its so heavy i always feel relaxed when i am alone at home - i cry my heart out at that time and chill lol but the momment one of my parent comes home or both i don't feel like myself instead i perform a obedient child and its too much i am not that good at expressing hope anyone who is reading this understands my situation

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

See i understand totally.  No parent is perfect no one is a perfect mother or father everyone has a flaw in them everyone has a red flag in them . They're also humans trying their best . You need to understand there is a huge Generation gap between us and our parents they were raised very differently and had a mindset very different than ours mostly because of the society they were surrounded.  So they are that person but we , are born in a completely different society of mature people so at a young age we know what's right what's wrong .  our parents treat us the way they were taught and which they think is right but we know what's not . You should have to adjust , try to communicate, and protect ur boundaries as much as you can . Ur family may not change but something in you might calm down . Take time cry aloud overthink BUT only until ur tears fades away after that think logically.  Most importantly try having a life outside of ur life school , friends,  blah blah which will distract you from ur parents.  Trust me it'll help alot💗🫶🏻