Someone once asked...

“I am male and I have a femal collegue in office. And recently we have become great friends. We talk and share a lot. And I have unfortunately fallen in love with her. She has all the qualities I want in my wife (all of them). I can't confess as I fear losing friendship. I had many female friendships but she is my first female friend with whom I have gotten this close and comfortable around. What should I do? I know most will suggest to confess, but you know what if she says no? Same office and I think I can't handle losing this friendship”

Someone answered with kindness...

Okay... This answer is what I wanted to do for a while... You know I have been in this situation and I didn't confess.. but somehow with my love and care and behaviour, possessiveness and friends. She found out that I love her...but she didn't had that feeling.. so she didn't want to give hope...so she started to avoid me... Blah blah blah... Then one day she got commited with a guy and it ended in breakup... Now she is my best friend you know... I confessed to her that I didn't love you... Blah blah.. I liedd....because I know she is not in love and not interested in me.... In your case my suggestion would be.. get to know her better.. she is your comfort zone... But know whether you are her comfort zone or not.... Then ask her how should be her dream boyfriend.. dream husband.. blah blah..stufff... Then ask her.. what will she do if someone propose her... What if it is a complete stranger... And leave it for a day.... After 2 days ask her... What will happen if I fall in love with you... See how she reacts and before this give a warning... Like I'm just asking don't think wrong...been seeing reels in Instagram like bestfriend leaving and stuff..then ask these kind of things... Then may be ask do u have atleast 5percent attraction and love for me.... Then you know you will eventually be knowing whether she is your or not.. And don't worry about anything.... If she is your she will be... If not be sad for a day and move on... Just be clear in ur intentions... Being friends with a person you love will hurt more than she saying no to you and getting in love with someone..... So I would suggest you say it out...and be clear.... Best of luck